SO has no calming abilities

I cannot do anything without my 3m son bc my husband is so uncomfortable when he cries that he loses his shit when he has to attempt to console our son. He wears headphones and is as stiff as a board when holding him when crying. I try and run errands and I get texts - come back. I have them come with and I get a 'we need to go right now' if I'm trying something on or trying to buy a freaking car that fits the family now.. I can't do a damn thing. It's bad enough I work from home, now I'm really chained to the house now bc he wants to run all errands for me instead of me leaving. AHHHHHHHHHHGG. Grow the F up and figure it out!!!!!!!!!! 

Is anyone else in this boat?!?