Spouse who doesn't contribute?

My family was going to have her celebration of life at some homeless shelter because they could get free food there. I asked my church if we could do it there instead and they said yes. All we had to do was put down $200 for the space and $60 for setup, which my dad did out of the estate, and I'm supposed to do the food since I'm the only one with a safe food handling license. 

He spent all the money in my account. Not just the $200 I had aside for the food, but the $100 I had aside to get to the venue. Everything. He said he spent it on "food" but there's no new food in the house. 

Its one week until the event and I have to call my church like some kind of welfare bum begging for help. 

Once another guy agreed to date me. We were together two months and my current bf was really depressed and wouldn't leave his room. I was so rich! I had money to do anything I wanted and the guy I was dating actually paid for dinner sometimes and would drive me to the grocery store so I never had to get a cab. 

But he ruined it. He sat there scowling at us and slamming doors until the guy I was dating felt bad for him and left me. 

I feel completely trapped and like I can't trust any man in the world to do anything except help him keep me in a cage. My dad says I should pay for him to get a drivers license if I want a man that drives. The police said I can't kick him out because his name is on the lease. The last time I moved to get away from him I found him sitting on the couch because my landlord took pity on him and let him in. 

I just want him to go away, or someone else to notice I exist. Every guy I know is dating some supermodel because apparently it's cool for guys to be unattractive these days...so I can't get anyone. 

Truthfully I don't want anyone. But guys are less abusive if you already have one. It's like this magical thing in your house that keeps them away.

But that's all he is. A THING in my house. Have you ever gotten rid of a lazy cockroach of a person that just sat around your house spending your money? How did you manage it? 

How did you hide your money and your Facebook posts and phone and e-mails so they couldn't check everything? How did you get out with other family members conspiring to keep you in a cage? How can you move away for the fourth time in a year without being followed by somebody who NEVER goes to work and NEVER leaves the house for more than an hour? 

He won't even let me have clothes. He ruins them in the wash or hides them in the basement and tells me I'm not allowed down there to do my own laundry or piles it with garbage so it takes hours to find my laundry. 

Now I can't even do the food at my grandmas funeral, Its in a week and everyone is mad at me. I'm going to lose the last People I had in my life and everybody blames me because he "seems so nice". 

Only my mom understands because she was in obsessive relationships before finally getting away. But when we stayed there she threw him out because he was keeping a sock full of rocks under the bed and she thought he meant to kill her. He says he didn't put it there and there have been kids staying there before so it could have been a kid just filling whatever he had with garden rocks but still...

He does keep weapons all over the house "in case of intruders" even though we have an alarm and a dog. I can leave for work reasons but if I leave with the dog even to walk him he has to come with me. If i go out with friends or on a date the dog always "runs off"....and no I can't get help from any social service because I stand to lose everything if I do. 

He NEVER EVER leaves me alone!!!!! Me or my bank account!!!! 

Sorry this is so long I'm just seriously crying in bed wearing the same dress I bought last week and had on for 3 days because I'm afraid to have it disappear in the laundry. I'm going to a conference soon for a week and a half and I locked all my clothes for the trip in my suitcase but he threw it down the stairs. I'm thinking about moving stuff slowly to a storage unit...maybe I can store cash in a storage unit too...but it's stupid because I know he would just steal the keys or something. This is just a hilarious game to him.