I recently broke up with my SO after over 2 years of a pretty serious relationship (we were living together and still are until the lease is up this month). When I look back at the relationship I feel very conflicted, part of me was miserable and knew there was better out there, but another half thought that this man was, although a little misguided, a genuinely good person and wanted to make it work. I won't go into the details but after we got our closure (which we talk and reflect on our relationship a lot since we still live together) we both admitted that we had just fallen out of love with each other. We still loved and cared for each other, but we weren't IN love. It was heartbreaking to hear even though I felt the same way. We both stopped taking joy in each other's company because we were so different and at first that difference was intriguing and provided a lot of entertainment as we learned more about the other, but eventually we started getting to the point where we couldn't make each other laugh because our senses of humor were so different, I started getting jealous when he would hang out with his female lifting buddy because they were both fitness freaks and they always had more to talk about than we did, he started getting jealous when I would hang out with my male friend from class because he always made me laugh and was always up for an adventure and had the same taste in music and movies. We tried going on a break (2 months) but living together meant it didn't do much. We used to have fun picking on each other but then it just made me feel self conscious because I knew I wasn't his type and I just had this sinking feeling in my gut he would meet someone he had more in common with and leave me. I know I'm going to miss him like crazy when I move out next week, and part of me wants more than anything to make this work because he is an amazing person, but I just feel like he and I would be better off apart. Has anyone gone through this and could offer advice? Do you think opposites attract or does that eventually wear off and SOs need to be each other's best friends?
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