Wanting to have children young?

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I'm 19 years old. I was lucky enough to get an amazing paying job.  I get paid better than my brother and sister and all of my boyfriends family. I go to school part time as well. I want kids so bad. I had a misscarrage when I was 17. I have an emptyness inside of me and I want the have a baby pretty soon. Is it too early? I know me and my boyfriend would be able to support the baby financially. I could take classes online. I want kids so bad that before I met my boyfriend I have now I wouldn't date a guy unless they wanted kids. That was the deal breaker for me. Do you think I just have an emptyness because of my misscarrage?  Or do you think I should follow my heart and try for a baby? Please be kind this is a sensitive subject for me.

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I'd  wait, but...

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I am caught between go for it and waiting until you graduate. I think there's no reason to tell you you shouldn't have a baby just because you're 19. As long as you realize how much work having a child is then why not? I think it would be a lot better if you had already finished school because it will be less stressful for you, which is good for the baby. Working, school, and being pregnant will be difficult especially because of all the fatigue the baby brings. Ultimately it's up to you and your boyfriend. Good luck:)

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I suggest waiting until you are at your job for a year and then doing what you want. Having a baby to fill emptiness is not a good idea at all.

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I felt the same way and i was 21 and wish we had our first sooner 
I think people are waiting to long nowadays I don't believe you can ever be truly ready for the  responsibility of another life until you actually have one

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No matter how many children come in your future, you will always feel an emptiness in your heart for your baby that was lost.

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Obviously it's up to you in the end- but ask yourself these questions..

Do you have health insurance? (Not your parents, insurance of your own)

Your plan sounds like a good one, but do you really think you could handle working full time and going to online college while pregnant and then having a newborn?

Could you handle paying for daycare or a babysitter if you had to work and couldn't stay home? Could you manage to pay your bills on one income if you just stayed home?

Who you are now will be completely different as to who you will be in a year, two years, five years from now.

Miscarriage is painful, I know. Having a baby to fill that void wouldn't be beneficial. Give yourself a chance to earn a degree, work for a while longer, save up some money.

Ultimately it's up to you, but I'm glad I didn't have a child at 19. I'm 26 now and just now trying to conceive.

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I had my son at 19 after over a year of being married. I don't regret it. Best decision I ever made.

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I believe you should wait. Finish your career. Get established in your career. Get yourself your own home and then think about kids. Enjoy your youth!! I had my baby at 19, he is such a blessing in my life and I wouldn't change it for the world but wanting to finish and have a career while working and having a baby is hard. I had a miscarriage about 2 months ago and I can totally relate to how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I want to have another baby, especially when I see other pregnant women with their tummies I wish I had mine and I think back and say to myself, today is be so and so many months. Especially with my boyfriends brother's gf being pregnant it makes it a little hard for me because we both found out we were pregnant around the same time and we were going to give birth around the same date so when I see her with her belly I get this feeling of emptiness where I wish I was pregnant and want to try to get pregnant but I rather not for so many reasons. I also am trying to finish my career and graduate from college with a bsn in registered nursing as well as juggling a job, baby and now our own place where I have to cook and clean. So I would suggest you just wait and enjoy your youth and this time you have on your own with your guy. You have a long life to live. Don't rush things, just enjoy it. In the end you will make your own decision and in whatever you decide good luck and best wishes 😊

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This is difficult for me to give a clear answer. I 100% believe in following your heart so if this is something u truly desire the go for it. However what people are saying about emotional stability is right. Maybe my experience will help your decision. I'm 24 and I was the same as you growing up. I always wanted kids and a big family. When I graduated I met the love of my life but things were away difficult for us because of him having two kids with his pasted gf when they were kids. In 2012 I lost our son and things changed for me. I was so lost and depressed I want a baby or I wanted to die. My loves emotional support truely helped me though the hard patches but I never fully recover from the loss. But I slowly dealing with it realizing that mayb its just not time. So my advice is don't try getting pregnant, maybe just stop precaution an see if it happens on its own in time.

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It is not so much about the money, though that does make things easier, it is more about having everything in your life settled.  Graduate, keep the job for at least a year (makes them want you back), get a house, maybe even marry.  Kids need stability, more then money, (but i will be the first to agree that money can get you stability).  In the mean time get yourself a dog.  Women are programmed to nurture, having something to take care of will ease your "baby fever"

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