Am I The Only One Who Gets Bothered By This?

Question

Since I've been pregnant my sister in law first was really sad because she isn't married and she's dying to be married and have her own baby.....she loves babies....

And she buys our unborn baby girl clothes all the time (which I appreciate) but sometimes she'll says things like just now she said "where my baby?" Or "how's my baby?"

I don't know if I'm overreacting but it makes me feel so uncomfortable.........

She tries giving me advice and everything and she's only a year older than I am....

And I have the almost for sure feeling that she's gonna try being the "mom" to our first baby....
And making me feel left out....

Guys..
What do I do?...

I'm so afraid of when our baby girl is born..
I want to be my baby's mom.. and learn on my own with my husband...

I don't need someone there hovering over me..

And Ps.

I'm living at husband house due to no affordable home here in Boston...and she still lives with her mom so....I'm living with her....

I really need to get out of this house 😞

Answer

To be honest it just sounds like she's trying to be supportive and involved. I really don't see examples of her overstepping boundaries here. I read on here a lot of moms get very sensitive when people say "my baby" but everyone knows you're the mom,  they're just saying that because they are excited and it sounds more personal than "the baby". I have a sister who lives close to me and has zero interest in my kids except to take pictures of them and post on Facebook like she's this amazing aunt, I wish she was more involved and actually cared for them,  i could use the help! If she starts over stepping her bounds when baby comes then you can say something of course. But to me it just sounds like she's excited for some baby-time.

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My sister and brother in law like to say that my daughter is theirs (shes 4) they have 2 boys and they tried For a girl but they had a boy i have the only girl in the family so they love her and i dont mind since she was born.

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She's just really excited as she really wants a baby of her own I think it's harmless may be over reacting a tad but if it's really bothering you let her know but I don't think she means any harm

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Its a little odd but I don't think she means any harm. I could see how that would be a little irritating and uncomfortable. My brother has no kids and LOVES to tell me what I should or should not be doing with my baby. It got to a point where I told him to get his own baby and leave me and my baby alone.We have a relationship that he wouldn't take that too hard. If it bothers you there is no reason you can't talk to your sister about it (gently though). I think she's just excited to have someone to spoil which will only work out great for you. As for her opinions, absolutely everyone will try to tell you what's best for your baby (it can be quite annoying). Have a talk with her, I've had the talk several times with my brother. He's usually fine for a little bit then he will need to be reminded. Just make sure you have boundaries and you should gently remind her when she crosses them.

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My future sister in law calls my daughter her daughter and calls herself her real mum, I just laugh it off, it's sweet someone cares that much about your child and you will always be the only mum and your baby will knows that

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Set some serious boundaries. Appreciate her help when you need it, but make it clear this is your baby and your learning to be a mother. Be very firm and don't let her make you feel like crap if you disagree on parenting styles. You're the parent, she isnt.

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it sounds like shes just jealous and trying to be supportive at the same time. i HATE when people say "my baby" about MY baby lol. my MIL does it all the time and i cant stand it🙄 like no, this is MY baby that I am creating and carrying. I can see where youre coming from but it seems like shes coming from a good place so i would maybe just let it go or if it really gets to you just calmly explain to her that you dont like it when she says that. Im sure its hard for her considering she wants her own family badly and it seems like she just wants to be involved with your baby which is nice

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Talk to her about it if it bothers you... but from experience, when my nephew was due I was so excited I probably said things like that!! But I didn't mean as if he was my son! just my baby nephew!!

And now being pregnant... every time I see my sister in laws they've bought an array of new clothes! So I think it's kinda normal!

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