Super stressed. I wanted two baby showers one with friends and one with family. My mother in law is hosting one with family ( since she has to invite everyone on her side shes very controlling and my side is small) husbands family doesnt usually bring presents they just come to eat (annoying) so i tried to talk to my husband today about throwing our own baby shower with friends to get some pressure off his mom since she has more than 40 family members and we have 50 friends to invite.  But he insists that his family needs to be there too because if not they are going to be mad and he has to hear about it and im like well why do they have to come to two baby showers ? There just gna eat all the food and not gift (just like our wedding) so why cant i just have one with friends? Its really annoying and i just kept crying because he insisted on arguing with me as to why they had to be there and i feel like why isnt anyone asking me what i want im the one having the baby. Why cant i choose? Im tired and idk if its the hormones or what but i dont even want a baby shower at all now. I know we need all the help we can get but im never going to be able to do anything without his family getting in the middle of everything. Im just crying now because i see that now and i feel like the rest of my life is going to be miserable . Thanks for listening just need to vent.