Prayers... am I asking too much?

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Hi ladies! I've been TTC #1 for 20 months now and still no luck. Found an issue with DH sperm, and we've tried just about everything we can to try and correct it. (I'm also still not sure if everything is 100% with me - only thing I've checked is thyroid and that came out normal). Through it all though I've just been praying that God pulls through for us in His unimaginable ways, and turns the impossible into possible and the no's into yes's the way that we know He can. I've prayed that He can replace all this sadness, pain and confusion with His all of His goodness, and bless us with a baby. I know it can only come from Him and I've prayed that He chooses us. I'm still praying.. but, it's DH birthday next month and for the longest time I've pictured announcing to him on his birthday that we are pregnant. Even before we ever truly realized that there was a problem, (maybe 3 months TTC) I had always just thought of this time as the perfect time to announce my pregnancy to him. I know it's a bit superficial, because after trying for almost 2 years I literally could announce on any day and at any time because that's how happy that blessing would make me. I don't think I would even have time to plan all these cute announcements some ladies do because I would just be too shocked it's happened. But still, now that his birthday is coming up I can't help but feel those feelings yet again of hoping to give him this great birthday present. So my prayer has sort of changed.. I'm praying now that the Lord blesses us THIS month so that I can conceive and tell DH on his birthday that he is going to be a father. This has been my prayer the whole month of May. Every morning I wake up, every time I think of it and every time before I go to bed, I pray that I have conceived this month (AF due around the 2nd of June, I'm about 6dpo today) so that I can tell DH we've been blessed to become parents and we can celebrate Father's Day knowing he will be a father. This is the cry of my heart..

Is this being too much to pray this way? I've been steadfast, choosing to be like Hannah and to not cease praying, but is this not actually putting my faith in God and in His timing when I pray this way? I'm being specific in the thing I'm asking and believing for, which I heard is good, but to what extent? I don't want to disappoint God or be disappointed (as I already feel like I'm out this month, everything is as it's been the previous failed cycles 😢). I ultimately want God to just be at the centre of it all - my conception, my pregnancy, my birth and raising the children He blessed us with, but I heard that when God asks you what you want you should tell him, and believe that it is yours. So this month I still despite the odds want to pray for this May conception and June celebration.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this type of prayer pattern, has it worked for anyone? And if you can please join me in prayer and please if you would like, leave any prayer requests so that I can join you in prayer too. Let's all call God to be with us now... 🙌🏾🙏🏽🙌🏾🙏🏽

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God wants us to come before him with confidence and boldness. Pray the way David did, if you are as obedient to him as David was. Stand on his word and KNOW that it is GOOD AND TRUE and that God is GOOD AND TRUE! He has told us to put him in remembrance of his word. So use scripture in your prayers and as James said, do not be double minded because double minded people should expect nothing from the Lord. Remember that when you pray satan also hears you and will do his best to get you to block your own blessings by tempting you with doubt, jealousy, etc.

Try praying like this by yourself and with your husband or another believer. I'll be in agreement with you, too!

Father I/we come before you in the name of Jesus. [Your word says that when 2 or more are gathered in your name there you are in the midst of them.] I thank you that your word is true in my/our life/lives and that no word from God will ever fail. I thank you that it is your will that we be fruitful and multiply, and because we worship the Lord our God, you remove sickness away from us, I will not miscarry or be barren and you will give us full life spans. I thank you Lord Jesus that you said we may ask anything in your name and you will do it so that the Father may be glorified through the son. I thank you that because I delight myself in you that you give me the desires of my heart. And  what you have done for one you will do for another for you are not a respecter of persons. As Hannah prayed for a child and dedicated him to you, Father I pray that you breathe life into my womb and my child will serve you all the days of his/her life! I thank you in advance and give you all glory and praise for it! I believe that I have received it in Jesus' mighty name, AMEN!

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I've prayed similar prayers and I am still waiting for my baby. I hope that the Lord grants you the desire of your heart.

There are many scriptures encouraging you to ask for what you want. I don't think there's anything wrong with praying for something specific.

For me, the lost important thing is to know that no matter what happens, He's still in control. I can't let my faith waver even if I never receive my deepest desire - a baby. 
 
We just pray for His will and His perfect timing. I'll add you to my prayer list! I'm hoping for blessings and babies for you!

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I don’t yet have the type of success story we all want as women struggling with infertility, but I do want you to know this. With God life sometimes doesn’t make sense or seem fair even. Infertility is one of those things. I can honestly say, praying and fasting for a baby was my full preoccupation at one point. I thought if “God was good” He would have to give me this desire of my heart. 
One thing brought more pain than my infertility; it was God’s utter silence on the matter. I felt hurt, broken and abandoned. Like God just didn’t care anymore. I thought my faith was failing.... God used my infertility to show me that He is the God of the wilderness seasons of our lives. If He doesn’t answer your prayer, it’s because He’s trying to show you something more valuable to Him, maybe not to you... However, it is so valuable. God really does desire for us to have our priorities straight: Him first, Relationships with others second and everything else after. God wants us to know Him, and suffering sometimes is the only route to that kind of revelation which leads to stable, bold, abundant faith where all things become possible with God. Pregnancy can become such a distracting idol when you are facing infertility. Let God be your everything and trust Him, trust His timing, trust His will for you, trust that He is Good and Loves you. Seek Him and He will answer you about becoming a biological mother in His timing. Whatever His answer, take courage in His love for you, because He would never do anything that wasn’t for your good.

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I feel that with things like TTC, if you are thinking about it alot it can be really disappointing and upsetting. I think sometimes you have to let go of the life you have pictured to better live the life that's been planned for you. I also personally believe in trying to "let go and let God"... putting your trust in him and his timing. Reminding myself of these things helps calm my thoughts and brings me peace. But if praying a lot is what is bringing you closer to God and more peace then great!

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Thank you so much for sharing your story, I can relate to this so much and my heart aches for you! I have also been experiencing the internal struggle with praying for pregnancy and wanting God's will to be the main focus. My prayer lately has been asking for clarity to see his plan, as well as patience and above all faith in his plan. When I struggle with the patience part, I try to pray additionally asking for ways I can practice my faithfulness and love towards God, and pray for myself to be open to all of his gifts, pregnancy or not. As painful as it may be each month, I choose to focus on the idea that my timing may not be his. And that may well be the most difficult part! ❤️ I will pray for you as a sister in Christ! ✝️🙏

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This is what my husband takes. 💙😊

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I so understand! We too have been TTC for pretty much exactly two years. I just turned 36 yesterday. My husband will be 36 in September. We had all of the fertility testing done last summer. Other than me having fibromyalgia and the related conditions, low immune system and low blood pressure, I am ok. It lies more with my husband and his sperm quality. It has been such a tough struggle in all ways. I too pray daily about it and want what you have been praying for. I think about doing a special and unique pregnancy announcemt for my husband. Each month and holiday that goes by, I'm disappointed. I am the second oldest of the women cousins, but the only one that has EVER had trouble conceiving in my family (all relatives). I have cousins that have gotten pregnant in their teens. I have to pray daily to fight back feelings of jealousy and anger. Not towards them or God, but at the situation. Some of them don't even want kids at the moment (not planned). We are now going to be starting Clomid soon as well as starting to gather more information about adoption. I know that God's will may be different than our own, so I am working very hard on being ok with that. 💜💜

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