My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together almost 6. Of this we have always done as we pleased. It was a very important part of the foundation of our relationship. He wants to go for military training he doesn't need to ask he just goes. The same thing happened when he wanted to go to Poland and now it is happening again with him going to France for a week two weeks after the birth of our daughter. I have always had the same freedom. I wanted to go to school in a a different town, so I have been making it work for me for the last year. I really like that we can live our lives with no regret and do what pleases us.

What has changed is that a month ago we bought a bigger house. He has fallen in love with this place! (It's no gem!). When we talk to people about our plans now it's on completely different spectrums. I have only planned to live in the house a year. After this, I am moving 17 hours away again for school, which has been my goal for the past 4 years. He plans to stay here much longer. He keeps telling me that I need to stay with things like I am being selfish. He has a good job now. He was driving home and all these memories came back etc.

All of this has never happened before. I don't like being told what to do. It's making me depressed and regretting having a child with him as now we need to be united in some decisions because of our daughter.

During the last 6 years he has rarely worked close to where we live. It just so happens he is posted for now where we bought the house. Most of the time I see him 3 or 4 months out of the year, so where I live shouldn't be an issue.