can anyone give me some very needed advice to over come this ? 😭

Question

So like my life is so dull compared to everyone else it seems. To give you an insider I am a sophomore in college, a college I don't even want to be at I wanted to transfer but my parents were aganist it and my boyfriend wanted me to stay for our relationship but the thing is he gradutes in 2018 and he plans to leave to pursue his dream in the NFL since there are no teams in Alabama. Leave me here alone for 2 years at first he told me he would stay but now he says he has no choice to go. I also feel like our relationship is changing, I have a feeling he isn't being faithful. But I ask him and he says he is. I try to tell myself what's he does in dark will be revealed in the light soon and not to worry. But I have a constant fear that something horrible will be revealed. I love this boy to death. Like I'm so scared to lose him. But I don't wanna be played I used to stalk his Facebook since we aren't friends on there but I have deleted the app cause it just makes me think more negative things. To add on I'm trying my hardest to find a job so I can get and apartment but I can't find one. Well I had this most amazing job in the palm on my hand but my parent made me give it up because the location was to far. I pray and pray and I feel better for a few hours but then I began thinking about my life then I become sad all over again. My parents aren't really the type to listen when I'm sad they just tell me to pray and get over it. I feel like I am just taking up space.The bad thing is I have many things people wish they Could have Some portray me as "spoiled" because my parent will get me anything I ask for. But only if people knew I would give everything I own to be happy, to feel better than I do. TBH i envy some of the homeless people because all though they have nothing they have something I don't and that's happiness...I dread my life. I try my hardest to make the best but I just wish death would come my way faster....

Answer

As I read through what you typed all I could think of is, that your not in control of your life. It seems as though your making your life  decisions based on what everyone else wants you to do.

Also, most homeless people do not have happiness. I live in Los Angeles, and I know its different to where you live but there are MANY homeless people here and it is so sad. The stress of not having a home and being a women is terrifying. Truly scary and cold and hard! And anyone would trade that for what you or I have.

Remember to always be grateful for the simple things! You can breath! And experience life. You have more ooportunities than many in the world because of the place you live.

Most of all, never look at your problems in life as hopeless, always look at them as challenges that you WILL solve. And life is always changing, its best to change with it and learn new things and know that issues will pass eventually.

What you do not like in your life, you can change. But do research and understand your options as well. This is your life, if your boyfriend leaves you, then take it as a positive thing! Hes going off to live out his dream to be in the NFL. Let that bring u peace. If you love him you want him to be happy. As for yourself let life come your way! Do what youve always wanted to do! Live the life of your dreams, or atleast try to! But never be disapointed in the things you dont have when you dont try to get them. Life sucks sometimes and there will be moments that hurt and suck but always try to get up and try again.

Your young still and have decades to live through.   this is one chapter of so many more. Dont stress on it too much! Have fun. Live for the moment and plan for your future but with ease and peace.

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You have the power to change your life. If you're unhappy, do something about it. As for your boyfriend, be straight with him. Tell him all of this of how you're feeling and if he can't give you a straight answer or things don't get better, move on and live your life! Life is too short to waste it on people who don't care.

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I went to a small Christian college for 3 years, never made friends, and hated it the whole time. If your parents won't let you leave (are they paying for it?), just stick it out and get your degree. Then your life is yours! After college I moved in with my long distance boyfriend and even though I don't have a dream job I'm happy. I didn't have the "dream college life" and sometimes it makes me sad hearing other people's stories but I got through school and I'm living for me now! As for your boyfriend, I'm really sorry that he feels he has no choice but to go far away but that doesn't mean you can't be together!

can anyone give me some very needed advice to over come this ? 😭

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