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This the hardest thing I have had to do....

Lauren
Today, I am packing a bag for a two to three day stay with my parents. My husband and I are having a super tough time right now to the point where we are arguing every day. Please do not get me wrong, I love my husband with everything I have, but I cannot take anymore of us tearing each other down and going a long time without speaking. My heart is breaking just by having to take a few days away, but I am praying that the time apart will help us. He originally fought me on the idea, but when I pointed out how much we were fighting, and even in that moment it was almost a fight, he agreed. He is going to take the time with a friend to help prepare the nursery for our baby girl and it's at the right timing to where my parents will not question our motives. They think it's just so I don't have to be around the sanding and the primer fumes, and that is ok with me. I feel like I just need to vent a little bit before leaving to their house and to someone who will not put down my husband because they feel like he is not doing his job at keeping me happy. It's hard enough to make this decision and having to pretend everything is ok.
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sh

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We all have problems, & it's understandable that your taking some space to breath. Pregnant women are no joke, I know my husband wished he coulda had a break from me. We fought all the time, tensions are high your whole worlds about to change. Both of you are doing the right thing and giving some space and time. 

La

Lauren • May 24, 2017
I truly hope it helps us. I am waiting for a few last minute things in the wash and hoping it will hurry. he gets home in about 30-45 minutes and I know if I see him before leaving it will make it so much harder on both of us.

La

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You are making a very tough but responsible decision. My parents live 6 hours away, and I have 2 older boys that I share custody of. So there isn't really a way for me to go anywhere. We had a huge fight Saturday and I wish I would have been able to have a place to go just to cool off and to get my point across...but make sure you keep the reasons to yourself. I have been divorced twice and each time I told my parents what was going on, while it was going on and it made my choices that much harder to make... good luck mama. I hope that these few days are restful for you.

La

Lauren • May 24, 2017
Yeah, my mother likes to try and get her two sense in, and I can't stand it. I have even told her that if she doesn't like it when someone badmouths my father, why does it make it ok for her to do so to my husband and it never ends. Maybe I can convince her to stop by hobby lobby to look at some nursery decor while they are painting.

La

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So this morning he was texting me because he knows that I have an appointment to check on baby girl, but he can't get the time off to go. I told him that I will let him know what the Dr says and that I will be bringing the ultrasound picture home to put in a frame we have when I come back. But in between that conversation he asked me if I was coming home tonight. I haven't answered him quite yet because I don't know if I am ready to or not. I don't feel like it has been enough time yet, plus they are still doing the groundwork to paint and I can't be there anyways... is it wrong to feel like this? I feel so incredibly guilty because of the situation, but I feel like he only misses me physically being there versus actually missing me in an emotional sense.

Li

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When I was pregnant, I was really emitional and for some reason anything my husband did, annoyed me! It was bad when we first had the baby but it's hormones. Breaks are ok just know why you want to take a break and what you need for urself. Distance truly does makes the heart grow fonder!

Lu

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Good for you, sometimes a little time apart is healthy for both parties (I wish I did that when I was pregnant), specially for you the stress is not necessary when you're expecting. Just take the time to relax and try not to think about the arguments between you two.
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