Mean Mother-In-Law, Am I overreacting???

Question

Ladies. I need your input. Here's the scene, I'm over 29 weeks pregnant, on the lake with my husband and my inlaws, in a bathing suit (and feeling good about myself for a second) and my MIL looks at me and says "Wow you're really getting wide and spreading out (with hand motions) from the sides!"

Next day:

Then as my husband and I were coming back up from the lake to the house for the night after not seeing them (in laws) all day, my MIL says "Well I think you look more pregnant now than you did when I saw you this morning!"

My feelings are hurt, I've cried, I'm mad, and I really want to tell her off. 😡 My husband says I'm "overreacting and being too sensitive " but come on?! Who says those things?! 
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Here's me;

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Am I the only one that just wouldn't deal with this type of stuff? I would have immediately told her off. I understand most women want a good relationship with their MILs but it has to come from both sides. Let her know how hurtful her comments are and tell your husband that he doesn't get to decide how hurt your feelings are.

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Honestly sounds like jealousy. She probably didn't look as good as you when she was pregnant.  You look amazing and your husband needs to stick up for you because she doesn't care about crossing the line.  He needs to set her straight and let her know she needs to respect you the same way he wants you to respect her. Don't let her "hating" get you down because it will mean you gave her power over you.  Stay strong and remember that you're beautiful. People say mean things but doesn't mean it's true, she's just insecure herself. Keep your head up

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First of all, you look great and second of all... you're pregnant so obviously being a little more sensitive is going to happen. But most importantly, I don't think you're overreacting, I think you're MIL's comments are incredibly insensitive. If my MIL kept saying these things we would be having words lol

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If you hadn't have said "Mother In Law", I'd tell you to brush it off but they are seriously sometimes the most horrific human beings on Earth and she's probably saying things on purpose to make you feel bad. At least that's my experience with MILs. So I'd suggest you slash her tires.

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It's just backhanded compliments. I get them from my MIL all the time. In my head, I just see it as jealousy, so I play along. When she comments something rude about my pregnant body, I throw it back and say well you still look pregnant 32 years later, maybe we can work out the baby weight together! 😂

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You look great! And hormones or not, every woman knows better! She's being a brat. I would have gotten myself in trouble. The whole "wide" comment would have been returned with "I'm starting to look like you!"  But I'm a redhead and pregnancy has stolen the tiny filter I used to have. My MIL has tried to play passive aggressive games with me and even tried to cause a fight with me and my husband. I told her straight up, mess with my family and you will not like how I play back. My husband told her to knock her crap off or she can excuse herself from our children's lives. Little back story, he and his mom are not close. She allowed a boyfriend of hers to abuse him and his sister to a point where the man is still in prison. I was pushing for him to let her back in. But she ruined that. Stand up for yourself sweetie. Hang in there!

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I recommend being honest. Say something like, don't say that, i feel self conscious about it. Or it hurts my feelings. Not in an angry tone though. I think she would understand she just doesn't know you feel that way. And you look amazing btw!! You have a super cutie bump 😍

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I agree with everyone else, you look great. Your reply should've been "awww thanx, I was hoping to start getting big, gotta enjoy my pregnancy while I can still have kids, you must be sad you can't have anymore right?" And just smile.

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I don't think you're overreacting. My grandma told me the other day, "At least you're not fat this pregnancy." Thanks. That's exactly what I want to hear.

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Wtf!!! Girl you look soooo good !!!! Tell your husband to stop her from saying those rude ass comments ❤ u are gorg.

Mean Mother-In-Law, Am I overreacting???

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