In laws 😱😱😱

If you absolutely do not get along with your mother in law or sisters in laws would you allow them to come visit when the baby is born to meet baby?

I feel like I'm going to be in recovery. In pain. And I don't need any stress. The baby will be in my room at all times. Not the nursery. We haven't talked in over 3 years. And they acknowledge my daughter once a year when they remember they have a niece/ grand daughter. They talk to my husband but do not acknowledge he has a family.

I feel like if they do show up, it will just be to see the baby and then disappear till next year.

I want to say to stay away while we're at the hospital but then again they have NEVER visited our house. So if not at the hospital then when will they meet her...

The reason they don't like me is bcs I am what they call a controlling mother.

You see, they have 3 daughters and 1 son (My husband) and their daughters allow the mother (My mother in law) full control of their kids. From what they eat for dinner to spanking to staying the nights... EVERYTHING. what that lady says goes. And no one is to question her. And they may be right I am a controlling mother. I believe that no one is to have a say about my daughter but her father and I. NO she can't have ice cream after dinner. NO she can't stay the night and NO don't you dare spank my daughter. All hell broke lose when I made it known. But I dont care. I'm her mother. My rules , weather you like it or not.

Ugggggg. This is Soooo stressful. Help ladies

***** ok ladies. I understand y I look like the bad guy. It's hard to explain my history with my in laws through glow. But I will say this. My husband and I have never told my in laws they can't see our daughter. My husband has actually confronted her and cried to her to be involve in our daughters life bcs it's not fair that bcs they don't like her mother they don't acknowledge her or want anything to do with her. They promise to come around but then never do. All they do is send her lots of money on her birthday as if they want to buy her affection. My daughter doesn't need money. She needs her family in her life. But I told my husband he needs to stop forcing them to have a relationship with her if they don't wish to.

And we have never told my in-laws they were not allowed in my house or ever close the door of our home to them. But they have told me that I'm not allowed at there's. So that's y I stay away. If they are not a part of my daughter's life is definitely not because I don't allow them.

I don't feel like I need to change the type of mother I am to keep them happy. It's not like I bend the rules with my family. They just respect my parenting. No my daughter is not allowed to stay the night with my mother. No she can't give her sweets after dinner. And Hell no my mother is also not allowed to spank her.