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Brittney • Thu, Jun 01

Less than 30 days before baby is due and I'm talking to my husband about what I'm expecting and the things I do and do not want so we both can be clear and come to an agreement and everything I have expressed he have completely shut down and says it's "stupid" this is our first child together his first my third so I want him to have a say so but I'm completely losing it... my wishes aren't crazy things either

I don't want to be bed bound I was with my first two and I feel like if I could get up and move around during labor (as long as it's ok with doctor) I want to be able to walk through the pain cause I didn't do pain medicine with the first two and don't want to again. His response that's dumb I don't want to take a risk of something happening it will only be a few hours you can lay down just suck it up

I want to do delayed cord cutting after doing a lot of research it's something I want to try since this is my last child now I'm not talking about hours just 5 mins or so... his response that sounds dumb as long as he healthy when he comes out we shouldn't do that this my first child and I want to be able to cut the cord when he comes out..

I don't want him to be bathe right away I want to keep him for the first hour and do skin to skin bounding etc..... hell no I'm not holding a dirty baby...

I feel like everything I want he just trying to talk me out of it and he just say well what you do with your first two don't try to change stuff now and I might as well not be there cause you keep talking about what you want. I just don't know how to respond to this or how to feel it is really bumming me out that he is disregarding all my wishes about how I want my labor to go and I don't want to just say forget what he says cause it's his child as well and I want him to have some say so.

Is anyone else going through this?

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