A woman in her 40s trying to convince i think its selfish as when that child gets to 20 years old the mother will 60 years old and who knows wear the mothers health will be the 20 year old could end up looking after the mother. I dont think they have really thought long tearm with it all they see is i want i want a baby! Its hard for a woman in her 20s looking after a toddler let alone someone in her 50s