Holidays

Jr
Does anyone live close to their inlaws and not their own parents? How do you break up the holidays? 
We live two miles from my husband's family and 12 hours from mine and we are having our first child in July and everyone is already making plans for every holiday and we can't be in two places at once. Asking family to travel to all be together isn't practical for either side. We love both sides and I don't want to hurt anyone.
Just wondering how people make it work bc it is creating a problem between me and my husband. 
Thank you.