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I met this guy a few days ago, he's 23 and I'm 18 almost 19, I'm currently pregnant(9 months to be exact). He doesn't care I'm pregnant or that I have a child on the way in fact, he loves kids. He's really cute, nice, and what not. But here's the thing; we were just talking and he said in the future he'd want kids and I'm like I'm sure you will with the right person and he basically mentioned me as being that person.. I kind of got nervous about it, honestly because like wow.. but I guess he said that because he wants to date me but I don't know if I'm capable of being in a relationship of someone trying to love me and I leave them because I feel like they are going to hurt me, use, cheat or whatever.. I have so many problems wrong with me it's so insane.. I would love to date him, but I'm scared you know?? And he said if I'm not ready to date then we can be friends but I feel like he got kinda upset by that.. but he has been trying to get to know me lately..

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I don't know if you have any other kids or not but your life is about to change drastically and your time and energy is going to be spent on your baby. Perhaps focus on that for the next few months and if he's still around, showing interst and it feels right to you then date. Good luck, I wish you a safe labour and delivery.

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This screams red flags to me just because he's so eager to say you're the one when he doesn't know you if you've just met a couple days ago. I wouldn't initiate a relationship right now and tell him you're focusing on your baby (because with this big change coming the last thing you need on top of figuring out motherhood is a new relationship) but you're open to a friendship and strictly a friendship at this point

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Yeah, red flags all over the place. I'm pretty cynical by nature, but if someone is that eager to date a pregnant woman (especially one close to giving birth) and is talking about having kids a few days after meeting someone, then that's definitely someone I would NOT be leaving my child with. At least not without a thorough review of his browser history.

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Dude is a little over eager, hinting for a family when he just met you. Personally, I think you should know a guy a long time before you even consider possibly dating him, to see if he can be trusted around your children

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Judging by how u just met a few days ago that doesn't sound right at all. A man who just met u wouldn't jump so quickly trying to be a family. It sounds to me like he's trying to see what he can get from u or how fast you'll go info this relationship. I'd say be friends and wait. Ur baby will come soon and that'll take up all ur time. 
I'd say stay friends and take it real slow, if he's serious about u then he'll still be serious six months from now. 
A few days isn't a sufficient amount of time in my opinion.

In my experience dating while being a single mom, all the guys were just trying to be with me because they thought I'd be easy because I got pregnant young. 
Even a guy friend I was friends with for four years ended up just trying to have sex, but I denied him and he broke it off in two weeks. 
Rushing into things is a red flag in my book.

My now fiancé I had know him for years but we were never close friends, my daughter was two when we started talking, we talked for 7 months before getting together, and he took it at my pace and he was respectful of my daughter and I and took his time building a relationship with us both. He was patient and considerate of both our feelings and only entered our relationship knowing that he wanted us to be a family and that this was a forever thing.

I wish u the best.

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