Who's the dad?

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So I have a question and I know this is the most immature and irresponsible thing a woman can do but I do not know who the father of my child is.. Is there a way to find out while pregnant? both dads want nothing to do with me and my child so abortion has came to mind I'll be 7 weeks this Friday.. I just need positive comments and vibes.. Any suggestions?..

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Don't have an abortion based off of whether or not the dads want to be involved. I was in a similar situation where my ex wanted me to have an abortion because he didn't want the child. Trust me when I say that if you don't want one truly deep down and you do it anyway, it'll destroy you. Only have an abortion if it's what YOU want. Being a single mom is totally and 100% workable and completely worth it in the long run if you want this baby. With that being said, you can definitely have DNA testing during pregnancy. I hope everything works out for you!

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Amniocentesis. Talk to your doctor about it. Your child should not have to suffer because the father says he will not be present in the child's life. You my dear are carrying a MIRACLE! If you scan through just a few of these posts, you'll see that pregnancy isn't as easy as most people think it is and while I don't know how true it is... I don't want your choice of abortion (now) to dictate your chances of being a mother in the future.  Either way, I'll be praying for you... It is well!

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I honestly have no idea. Definitely something to ask your GYN. Good luck to you.

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When my friend had her first baby she was engaged and the hospital offered a paternity test after baby was born. You could do some of the other tests and risk miscarriage. They could be expensive too.

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There are some invasive and dangerous tests that can determine paternity fairly early on in pregnancy but most OB won't do them unless there is a legitimate health reason that warrants it and then they add paternity into the work up for the needed test. These tests carry a risk of miscarriage among other things and even if you do them you have to wait til your window for abortion has passed for them to be accurate. 
You made a choice when you slept with 2 men in a window that causes confusion for the paternity. Lots of women make this choice, every day. They just get lucky and don't conceive, so don't shame yourself and don't use the shame and fear as an excuse to end a completely innocent life. If you find that you simply can not parent, adoption is one of the most selfless gifts that you can give your child and an adoptive family. Some people struggle for days, months, YEARS even, some with luck, many with no luck. Please do not disregard this pregnancy as disposable because you are scared and your head is filled with what ifs. There are far better options. As for paternity, knowing while you are pregnant will not ease your worries or stress, it will likely not cause the biological father to want to be involved with the pregnancy any more than he does right now. So why risk your safety or the baby's? If the father is going to come around it is probably going to be after the birth anyways so just have the cheek swab done at birth.

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You can do a non evasive DNA test as early as 8 weeks I believe. They draw your blood and then separate baby's DNA from yours then test the possible dads to determine paternity. Here is texas it's about 300$.

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There is fetal Dna in moms blood at some point during the pregnancy. I think as early as 11 weeks. You should talk to your doctor about maybe doing a Dna test. I know doctors can tell gender from a blood test because of the fetal Dna so I would think they should be able to just do a Dna test.

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