Already discouraged

Erika

and we haven't even actually started TTC :(

I don't know how this is going to happen. My DH and I have sex maybe once a week at this point. Last month, he went to visit his brother more times than we had sex. I don't know how to change this attitude in him, and how to get him to understand that if he really wants to make a baby, we have to have sex, because that's how it happens.

He has no sex drive. I initiate 75% or more of the time, and get turned down at least half of that. Usually the only time he initiates is when I'm exhausted from work (I work two jobs, a vet tech and a waitress) both of which are physically demanding, or when I'm trying to get ready for work and don't have time. It seems like the only times he shows any interest is when he knows I won't respond well. I want him to go to the doctor, have his hormone levels etc. checked but he won't. "Only dying people go there."

When I fill out my daily log and answer the sex question, I laugh at the fact that "multiple sessions" is an option. Maybe if I was filling it out for a whole month, but I can honestly say, I've never been able to check that box.

So thank you for whoever reads this sad post and please, if you have any advice, I'd love to hear it.

Baby dust to all <3