Need advice

So lately my husband always wants me to intimate sex not because he doesn't want it but because he wants to be "handled" in the bedroom. The issue is i Ike to be handled in the bedroom and while I don't mind initiating some of the time I dont want to always have to do it. He also always wants me to be on top and for whatever reason always wants to be" the little spoon" this is all making me feel very manly I guess you could say. I love being the submissive one in the bedroom and I don't know how to handle this. We've been married for six years and have never had these issues before 😕