Help! Should I go through with it?!?

Question

Hey everyone!
I have an 8m old baby and just found out am pregnant! Idk what to do! Having mixed emotions- I'm afraid of failing and going into depression if I go through with this pregnancy but on the other hand it's also a BLESSING! Please give me some advice! I have no family or friends around since moved out of state but I am a SAHM. I'd love to hear everyone's opinion on both sides! TIA!!!

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Honestly, I would never have kids that close together. I would not want to put my body through pregnancy again so soon either. If I were in that situation, I would terminate. Which yes I know, I'll get a lot of flak from people on here for it, but I'm extremely pro choice and have no qualms about it.

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I never give advice on this app but I feel as though your post was meant for me to respond to. I found out I was pregnant when my baby was 11 months old, the kicker is I was already 13 weeks pregnant! I was shocked and went through lots of fear and thoughts of abortion, thought I wouldn't be able to handle two especially with daycare costs. My baby was healthy at 13 weeks with no prenatal care and I've decided to keep my baby I'm now 32 weeks and I'm so excited to have another boy!! My lo will have a playmate for life what a blessing! It's not always going to be rainbows and sunshines there will be days where I want to rip my hair out and scream but they don't compare to the good days. Hope this helps !

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No one can tell you what you should do here. You are the only one aware of your mental health and ability to care for another baby. I would suggest speaking with a doctor about your questions and concerns. I wish you the best.

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Talk to the father of your child, and your doctor both your Obgyn and therapist if you have one for depression.  Then seriously consider all your options and pros and cons. Do not let any one pressure you one way or the other. When I was 18 I got pregnant  (unintentionally) after switching birth control methods. The guy I was with we had only been dating abt 3 months, and he convinced (more like pressured/have me an ultimatum) me to terminate. I knew I could not care for a child financially and my living situation was not ok for a child. The method used was with what looked like yeast infection capsules, and causes you to miscarry. You are supposed to have counseling after any termination, but he did not want to talk abt it and I didn't want to go alone. Now 12 years later I still think abt it, we are no longer together but have 2 children together from our marriage (now divorced and both of us are remarried). I still have the ultrasound picture from that pregnancy, and I have a hard time around what would have been the child's bday each year and around the termination date each year. For me personally I am pro choice for sure, and it makes me so angry to hear people talk abt how it shouldn't be a choice. But there are all kinds of situations that I think that people shod be able to choose what is best for their lives.

All this to say, whatever you decide make sure it is your choice for you and your family, not someone else pushing you to make a decision.

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If have 4 children. My oldest 2 are exactly 1 year apart they even have the same birthday. my younger 2 are like 13 months apart. I know it may seem hard right now but it will be ok. My daughter was 3 months old and i was pregnant again. I was worried but it worked itself out. I'm glad my children are so close together. They love it. Good luck I hope this helps. It gets overwhelming sometimes but it's awesome

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Make the decision that is best for you. I'm prochoice. Just make sure you are confident in your decision either way. Many OBGYNs may not want to discuss abortion you may want to go to a planned parenthood. They are good resources and will also assist you if you need prenatal care if you decide to keep your child. I wish you the best!

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Consider yourself blessed and lucky to be able to have children. I have been ttc 6 years. Babies are a blessing not a curse and that is a human life. Life sometimes gets in the way of plans but I think you should really think and decide for yourself and your spouse needs to be involved.

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