Should I just leave or should I tell her?

Question

So my mother has made me depressed for the last 6 years. I mean it has took its toll on my weight, my grades, to the way I think & function. I feel like I was robbed of a childhood. She gets angry about any little thing & starts fussing & even gets abusuve. I feel like I don't matter.  I planned on moving out, and moving in with my BFF when I'm 18 (in 2 years) or 17 (it's legal to move out in my state at that age). I did plan on getting a job next January to save up. But when I leave I'm debating on whether I should just leave (without letting her know), tell her what's wrong now (she's very irresponsible, and acts like a child at times), or Leave a note explaining why I left.

I do plan on never speaking to her again.

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I'm going through a similar situation right now. Next year I'll be 18 and I'm leaving. I told her that too. But I try talking to my mom on how she acts towards me and it never helps. It just makes things worse. All I can tell you is do you, try to stay positive pray( if you do that) and try to keep supportive people around. When you get to the age when you can move out and you feel that you're ready, go. I hate going through it and I hate to hear that you're going through it. I hope my advice helps.

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I've lived the exact same situation with my mother, except in my case the one who leaves is her, i sometimes dont even see or hear from her in a few days. Then she just comes back like nothing even happened. This September i'm turning 18 and i'm leaving to study abroad bc i cant stand living with her any longer, i've had to go to psychiatrists from all the anxiety she has put me through. Leave as soon as u can, with a note so she knows what to feel bad for.

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If you are being physically abused go to the cops

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I'm actually in a very similar situation. I was in a mental hospital for self harm and that was the only time I ever felt like my parents really cared. A couple months after they got worse than before. I'm going to stay as long as I need to but after I have money to leave I'm gone. And I will never contact them. If you ever need to talk I'll be here.

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I am a sophomore in high school now and I've been depressed since I was in sixth grade. My relationship with my mother was the main cause. I think it made it worse by her not noticing and me not confronting her about it. The longer you go without speaking to her about it, the worse it will get. And leaving won't solve anything concerning your relationship with her. It will cause miscommunication and resent between the two of you. If it's really bad, you should consider family therapy. I went to a therapist and once I opened up about my mom, my therapist made time for my individual counseling as well as counseling with my mom. We still have major issues, but we stopped going. If we didn't stop, I think our relationship would have continued to improve.

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I don't know, once when I was 8 my mom snapped.she hit us with a toy golf club and threw us out for a few hours. She eventually let us back in. Since then, she has threatened to throw us out again. She also flies into rages where she hits us until our skin puffs up a bit. I have always been a quick healer so the puffy lines disappear in a few hours

Should I just leave or should I tell her?

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