What should i do?

So my fiance is a hard working man supports me and our 2 kids and i know he loves me but he has a problem when he gets drunk he is always yelling at me telling me i need to grow up and quit acting childish when clearly all im asking for is for him to listen to me when i say im depressed and i need his help all he does is tell me "your not depressed " or "i know what it is you gotta do this..." but he doesnt actually listen to me but he always wants me to be affectionate and all hot for him when hes ready for it. Plus my family is really messed up to me which he hates so hes trying to keep me away from my family as well as my kids but i say family is still family i know i need to learn limits when it comes to my parents versus him. He acts like drinking isnt a problem but in my eyes i hate it and he knows it but continues to do so. Theres alot more to add but from this info any advice? I truly need it.