when I tried to get help in the self harm community

After a relapse last week I was trying to get help in a community while waiting for an appointment to open up. Apparrantly because I don't cut (I scratch until there's a bleeding hole in my body, my self harm has to do with self punishment since I still have abusee negative self talk and no more abuser... it's more painful to rip with my own fingernails) I don't belong in the self harm community. I spent all this week being called a poser by support groups because apparently the only way you're allowed to hurt yourself is theough cutying.