PARENTS ASKING FOR MONEY. What to do?
So I live with my mom & dad and I have 2 occupations. I work for my mother as a caregiver (she's able to do for herself so she's not dependent on me) and I work as an EMT. Well the money that I get for being her caregiver I give it to her. My mom says " you don't cook or do my laundry" which she has a point since I'm not home as much I'm not able to do those things for her but I do drive her around a lot and hang out with her and buy groceries for the house so I don't complain & you'd think she wouldn't either right? WRONG. She asks me for money with my EMT check as well. Now she's my mother and I have no problem giving her money but I'm trying to save up because I want to move out with my fiancé in September. I do tell her that I'm going to give her money but something always comes up and I tell him "I'm sorry I'm not able to give you $150 or that $300 this bill came out of nowhere." She'd get mad and tell me why promise her if I can't give it to her. So maybe that's my fault. Anyways grand mother was going to give me $20K with an agreement that I'd pay my grandmother back $200 a month from money that she was going to receive from saling one of her homes in Arizona. Now she's giving my mom too to pay off her 16K car and give her $4000 extra. The money was to pay off my car and 2 credit card bills so I can move out & worry about less debt on my end. My mom butts in & says "you're only getting this money because of me and that she's only giving me $15K an taking the rest to pay off her own bills. Mind you his isn't her money it's my grandmother. I got upset and yelled at her for being greedy. I give her my other paycheck without complaints $800 a month & im in a lot of debt I get paid $4000 as an EMT. How should I feel? I hate arguing especially over money and with my mother I think it's a dumb argument