Fights with SO

Katie • 27 years old. Me and my husband have a 4 year old and TTC #2!!
Okay so me and my so have little arguments or disagreements about once a week or a longer. Sometimes they get a little out of hand. But every time we argue he says "your being irritable" or "you need to chill out". And omg it drives me crazy. I am exactly 9 weeks today. Today while I was trying to explain how exhusted I am because we moved this weekend and I literally have slept maybe 5 hours total each night and he has decided to work until midnight and I have to get him because of license issues, he said "you HAVE to go back to normal after the baby is born." I took a lot of offense to it. He says I'm overreacting and I need to learn to control my hormones. And general things like that. And then he will tell me I'm using this pregnancy as my excuse to be mean and fight. Which is not the case I am generally nice and understanding. I just stop responding to him and then he gets even more upset and says I am ignoring him. But he also has told me he wants me to stop fighting so I just stop responding to try and calm down before I say anything irrational. But he comes across sometimes like he does not care what I am going through to bring his child into the world. This baby was planned by both of us. And idk what to do, say, or think. Am I overreacting to his comments?