As soon as I got pregnant my husband lost his ability to be intimate wth me. Not that our intimacy was on fire when we were trying to get pregnant but at least it was regular. After having our baby sex was painful. Then when it stopped being painful it just wasn't something I wanted because honestly I'm fucking exhausted and don't see the point in losing sleep for boring sex that never ends with an orgasm for me.

My husband has done the same thing since pre-baby.. boob grab, butt rub, dig the penis in my backside, pull pants down and jam it in. Then about 3-4 minutes later he's done and it's all over me. Seriously. That's it.

Nothing to help me get going. We haven't made out since we were engaged. Nothing to help me orgasm. Nothing to show intent that he cares. He asks why I don't want sex and I tell him because I want to get off too and I need a warm up! His answer is that if we had sex more he'd last longer and I'd get off. I remind him if he warmed me up and made out with me I'd get off in the 3-4 minutes it takes him. He just gets mad and rolls away.

I hate saying this... but I'm exhausted. I work 50+ hours a week. He works about 4 hours a day and the rest is at home smoking weed. He says he cleans and picks up but that's about one day a week, which I appreciate and thank you for!!! I take care of feeding the kiddo, bath time, clean up, and putting her down (continuously through night wake ups too)

. While i do these things he is typically sitting and doing nothing. If the routine was split I'd have more energy and have expressed this. Only to be told she wants you, it's pointless for me to try. Umm... ????

I need to know... has anyone lost the drive and gotten it back? Or was it the beginning of the end? Or is it just a blip in the marriage and it will get better? I'm feeling very lost and unsure of my path with him and this situation.