So confused??

Question

So y'all... my boyfriend has a very low sex drive so he will go like a month rejecting me. He has always been like that and I have gotten use to it. Well he uses the condoms to jack off, well he has used like most of them to jack off but can't have sex with me? Like that makes no sense and it makes me feel like he isn't attracted to me. Someone tell me I am being crazy or would it bother y'all too?

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is he an introverted person, is he insecure? does he have anxiety? women sometimes make the mistake of thinking men are always revved up and ready for sex. they aren't mindless creatures who only think with their dick. why is it ok for women to have a low sex drive, but not men? I am not trying to attack you, just trying to show you a different way to look at it. have you spoken w him and told him how this makes you feel? perhaps he feels that he is bad in bed, or unattractive. that can make it very hard for a man to perform. hell, he could have health problems, too. also, some people just naturally have a low sex drive. and just because he is still masterbating, doesn't mean he doesn't want you. Lots of people use masterbating as a way to relax, fall asleep, etc. it's not always a purely sexual thing, and just because someone feels like jerking off doesn't mean they are in the mood for sex, you know? you just need to talk with him without accusing him of anything. the goal should be to understand where he is coming from, and for him to understand where you are coming from. good luck to you both.

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He jerks off with a condom??

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No, I'm sort of like that. It's a low sex drive/introvert/anxiety thing. It's not disliking sex or being turned off by your partner; you just don't need it that often and when you do, it takes a lot of energy out of you or you feel like you're not quite pleasing enough.
I suggest (as always) honestly talking about it. Know each other's needs and reasons and figure out a balance that works for both of you.

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