Masturbation where do you draw the line?

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Question for you.... when do you tell your husband he is masterbating too much? I have told my husband repeatedly that I do not like it and that it hurts me every time he does it. HOWEVER I am trying to get over it and deal with it to an extent I'm realize he has needs and needs relief at times when I'm either not home nor in the mood.  After having my son I seem to have an incredibly high sex drive so needless to say I'm never not in the mood despite working graves. We just had sex two nights ago like mind. Losing sex that we haven't had in a long time. Yet he still seems to be masterbating almost every night. I feel like that is a bit much like I feel that it wouldn't bother me as much if it was just an occasional thing but lately it seems to be every night. Call me selfish but I would like him to save some of that pent up frustration for me? I can't help but lose all drive when I know every time he does it. Turns me off completely. What do you think is too much?

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I personally think how much he masturbates should be something he decides, not you. of course you want to be intimate with him but masturbation can be a form of self-care... I wouldn't want to take that from him. I would guess if you keep complaining he is just going to start lying about it rather than stop, as it's clearly something that helps him. some people just need that time to themselves, in addition to the time they have with their partner.

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a lot better that he reliefs himself and doesn't look for someone else to do it. i think you should just let him be. eventually his sex drive will decrease

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I don't ask or care how often my partner does. It's really up to him. The only time I could see it becoming a problem would be if he regularly turns down sex and masturbates instead...?

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Well, as has been pointed out. That's something that he should decide. My best advice would be to find porn that you enjoy and watch it with him. Watching porn very rarely means they don't find you attractive. I masturbate and watch porn way way wayyyy more than my man does. It isn't anything against him, he gets me off and I love sleeping with him. But I can't just snap my fingers and get sex whenever I want. So I take care of myself. Even if we were married, that's no one's business but my own. Same for your guy. Try watching porn with him or if you're into it, watch him jerk off. See what happens. It won't stop him from touching himself but maybe you'll be more comfortable with it.

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My next question is how can I get over it and deal with it? Obviously I can't ask him to stop but how can I help my self get over it. I don't like the mental image I get from knowing I like getting my husband off my self I want that satisfaction I work my ass off to make sure he gets off. On the other side I'm very insecure with my self and my body and knowing that he's getting off watching other women hurts me. Idk how to get over it I want to I hate feeling jealous upset and hurt all the time

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Honestly, if he wants to be with himself it is none of your business, it's his body. If he is still having sex with you and not pulling away, I see no reason to be concerned. Some people just feel the need to release more often than others. I mean, have you ever masturbated? Regardless of how good your partner is or how much you love being with them, you know yourself best and you're the best at pleasing yourself. Does he know your sex drive is high? Maybe he doesn't realize and he just doesn't feel like aggravating you about sex.

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My husband and I wait for each other💁🏻 he's never home alone anyway and he's a very open person (uses the bathroom with the door open and we never take showers alone) so we just wait to make love. It makes it so much better. He's had his whole life before me to bust a nut "" lol now he has me. I personally wouldn't be okay if he was jerking off every night. Maybe like once in a while when I'm not there ? But to do it every night? Uh. No. lol but that's just me.

Masturbation where do you draw the line?

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