Should I make the first move?

My best friend and I had a fight two months ago when I found out she told a group of friends I was pregnant after I asked her to keep it a secret until I felt comfortable sharing. And to top it off- started spreading rumors about my boyfriend (father of my child.) Amongst other things she said I spend too much time with him and she thinks he's racist because he identifies as a republican. (I'm blk and he's Hispanic)

I've always been the "leader" in the friendship meaning, if I purchased a new pair of shoes I wouldn't be surprised if she went out and got the same pair. I bought a new laptop, a clarisonic, dyed my hair, tried new online shops, got false lashes etc, all of which she would promptly replicate. Initially, it bothered me but over the years her imitations got less and less under my skin.

Last year, she had an abortion because she didn't feel ready to be a mom and I know it was tough for her. When I found out in April of my pregnancy, I wasn't sure what to do and considered abortion. She shared her resources with me and offered to take me whenever I decided to do it. I decided against it. It was after I decided No, that she told my secret and tried turning mutual friends against my bf.

We have a small circle and I'm tired of group events being awkward with her. Mutual friends know bf is a good guy and he gets along with everyone. A mutual friend pointed out that she hasn't had a boyfriend in the past 5 years and I should be easy on her because she's probably just jealous. She did make some mean remarks about my bf. My bf says I can forgive her but he won't.

I'm not necessarily looking to forgive and forget but want to clear the air. Getting tired of ignoring the elephant in the room. We had a text fight a month ago but I want an in person discussion. Face to face.

Not sure what to do.