Jealous Mother

My mom is incredibly jealous. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and she acts like she is the only grandparent that it is important. She told me that my mother in law could throw me a joint baby shower a few weeks ago. So, I was talking to my mom about it last night and she freaked out because shes not planning it. I don't understand...

Later, we were talking about childcare and she wants to watch the baby every day and got mad at us for considering day care or letting my in laws watch the baby (or a combination of all 3).

It's like I can't do anything right. What would you do?! This whole thing is upsetting me and being extra emotional isn't helping.