Do you ever wonder what your SO is thinking....like why cant she give me more kids? Why can other women conceive? Why me?

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I'm so sick and tired of being polite and praying and wishing and hoping for more kids. All of my sisters have 2 or more kids everyone my age has 2 or more kids without trying and I know I'm such a good mom to my son and I'm just so sick and hurt and heart broken I see the pain in my husbands eyes when he sees pregnant couples or babies....he deserves kids and so do i and our son deserves siblings why is it so hard for me!!! I'm starting to question my beliefs and its honestly scaring me😢😢😢😢

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You dont think he is probably thinking the same thing?  Maybe feeling guilty too? "I know my wife wants another baby, why can I not give her one?"  Maybe you both need to talk and forgive yourselves.

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I will tally out what I told my high school sisters (10 and 12 years my junior). Men and boys don't think about a lot of things. When they're not actively having a conversation they're more than likely thinking; "what should I have for lunch today? Hamburger or hotdog?" and now when they get stressed about what a boy is thinking about them I just cock my head to the side and smile and they immediately reply and nob saying "hamburger or hotdog?" Men have this amazing box in their head I wish we women had its call the "nothing box" and they climb inside that box and literally think about NOTHING! Women can't understand this concept because our brains are wired to always be thinking and planning and preparing for our off-spring and our "clan." it's a survival behavior that carried over from the dawn of our species. It's really what has allowed homo-erectus to survive as long as we have and advance as quickly as we did. Bottom line your so is not having negative thoughts about you he's just thinking......"hamburger or hotdog?"

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I dont think about that at all. As bad as we both want it, we both also realize it may not happen. It is what it is. He is enough for me, and I am enough for him. We didn't marry for the sole purpose of reproducing. That's just an added benefit if it happens.

Do you ever wonder what your SO is thinking....like why cant she give me more kids? Why can other women conceive? Why me?

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