Anyone else have lack of support?

Question

So I'm not quite sure which category this falls under in the communities. But I'm in my mid 20's TTC with my husband and it's amazing the lack of support from people!

Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like people are so negative when someone in their 20's wants to have a kid and only talks about the negatives side of parenthood.

If I mention TTC to anyone, they always say things like "oh, are you sure you want to do that?" Or "have fun when you're up all night."

What are good responses to people who say things like this?

Answer

I know it's soooo annoying -.-
Like I can't even say anything to my friends about it (I'm 19, he's 22). We've been together 3 years, we don't drink alcohol or ever go out to a bar because we love quiet time with each other at the end of the working week. We don't have any interest in travelling, but love the idea of family holidays in the future.
I always get the same generic shit 'you guys should go travelling first' 'you need to live your life' 'are you sure you want to do that'
LIKE BITCH PLEASE stop putting me in your shoes. I have a beautiful home with my fiancé and I consider 'living my life' as starting a family. 
Rant over

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thats why i havent told anyone at all 😊

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Yes, you're not alone in this - and I am genuinely surprised at the lack of support we have received from certain members of our family. 
My husband and I will be married for a year this October, but we have been in a comitted relationship for 7 years total. We both have steady careers that we have worked at for 1+ years as well as a small sum in savings (that we are still building). 
I am 26 and he is 29, and we have been told that: 
1.We are too young to start trying
2. We should wait until we are more "stable" in our careers and
3. We should wait until we buy a house first (we currently rent a 2bed/2ba apartment)
I've found the lack of support hurtful and insulting; it's like they aren't giving us the credit to make an informed adult decision about our lives. 
Only you and your partner know when is best for you to have a baby. I wish you guys the best of luck.

Anyone else have lack of support?

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