Am I the only one who has not had sex yet 8+ months post partum?

So we haven't had actually sex yet since birth, and actually, not since around six months pregnant. We've been intimate a few times but no actual intercourse. First we were way too tired and worn out and cosleeping with our son. I'm a little freaked that it will hurt since it's been so long and I had third degree tears. Am I the only one? How long had/has it been for you? Any advice or experience?

I want to and I'm sure my husband does too, but it also always seems like we don't have time and we still share a room and half the night, the bed, with our son. I'm also not currently on birth control and haven't had a proper period to be able to track since birth, and we don't want to get pregnant yet, so there's that too... I have the mini pill to take cause I'm bf, but I'm still a little worried it will hurt my supply even though it's not supposed to, so I haven't started it yet.