visits after LO is born?

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my mother in law can be overwhelming sometimes.. she made a few comments about taking 2 weeks vacation time when I deliver. 
I don't want constant visitors especially because it's our first and I know I'll want the bonding time in addition to recovering and learning how to be a mom. I already don't want someone hanging over my head .. 
how can I politely tell her and other friends/family that they can have short and sweet visits but not everyday and definitely not during the few first days when we're alone together with our first child?

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you say just that. No visitors for the first few days, and don't hover. Sometimes people don't hear you when you're polite. Be firm

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My best friend's mother in law did the same. My friend was really happy with the help but she is not the type to be overwhelmed by visitors. (I am) your mother in law probably just wants to ease the situation for you. Explain to her that you feel like you will be overwhelmed if you have visitors (even her) for long periods of time and that you prefer if she waits before taking vacation so you can rely on her maybe a few weeks after when you need a small break! You can also ask her to prepare food for your family or come for a few hours to help with the cleaning/taking care of baby while you nap or shower ;) i'm sure she just wants to be useful!

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For us my mother I law is taking off a week after the baby is here and we had made it very clear that while we are super happy and grateful for the help these visits will only be during the day for a couple hours at a time. She had originally said I'm taking the week off and I'm coming to live with you for the week.
I personally think at this time anyway that her staying over for the week is a bit much right now as she is a very big hovering person and tends to just take things from you and do them and I've seen her just take full on care of a baby and not letting the parent do the work with just some tips etc.
I'm all for her coming over during the day for some visits at first for advice and tips and an extra hand since we're first time parents but we had to set a big line on what is expected of her etc. we were very firm in saying that we would love your help but please let us do the actual taking care of our daughter. She was accepting of this.

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I'm not having anyone at the hospital or come over the first two weeks. my side of the family is huge and doesn't understand boundaries even when I set them.I have four sisters and 9 nieces and nephews. and they would bring them all. its just overwhelming even for family functions and I dont like being around a lot of people. my sisters think "the rules dont apply to them" except for one of them.

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Just tell them exactly that. We told my inlaws we didn't want people for at least two weeks. Maybe more. But they need to check with us first to see if we want visitors. My parents live out of the country so they aren't an issue. But yeah, just be straightforward with her.

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Ugh I wish my MIL would take two weeks off to help with new baby. But I also will have a nearly two year old when our new baby gets here. I can understand being a FTM, it can be very overwhelming @ first trying ti figure everything out.

visits after LO is born?

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