Frustrated with my husband...just need to vent.
I'm currently 32 weeks and I'm soooo frustrated with my husband it seems like I have to beg him to help me do anything that has to do with organizing and getting ready for our second child.
When we had our daughter we had a small apartment this time around we have a big house. Since we didn't get to do a actual
Nursery for our daughter this time I want to be able to have everything ready before our son gets here do we can both enjoy the last welsh of the pregnancy stress free. However it seems like he's doing everything he can to stress me out. I've already had a few breakdowns and he doesn't seem go give s crap.
The first that made me mad was as soon as we found out I was pregnant I told him now you can move your office so we can put our daughter in this room he flipped and said he was not moving his office. This is something we agreed to do back when we purchased the house! Finally he accepted to move his office after much begging and explaining how it makes sense toBPut our 4yr there and make the nursery in her current room since it's right next to us. Which by the way he keeps telling me all the people he has spoken to tell him that makes no sense when I asked who he talked he said the guys at work of course ...when I told him all the mothers I've talk to my idea makes more sense.
Anyways after that battle he decided he wanted a new desk ok then he wanted to paint his the office no problem make the room your own. This process has taken him almost three freaking months! Understand I can't move my daughter to her big girl room until he moves his office which means I can't get anything done for the nursery.
Finally after three months he got his office painted & his desk delivered. I actually cancelled the Easter family get together because he said if people were coming on Sunday he wasn't going to paint our daughters room on Saturday (makes no sense don't ask me) so he finally half painted her room and promised to finish during the week which to me it means he won't finish until some time next weekend.
Keep in mind I'm basically begging him to do this work which i can't do plus he has refused help from friends & family (they can see my stress levels going up but he can't).
I'm just feed up with his selfish attitudes he keeps saying he gets no time to relax and enjoy his weekends & he drinks everyday and treats me like crap. I don't get to relax I'm stressed about the baby showing up early and we have nothing done or purchased ...I take care of our daughter clean the house do all The shopping laundry and work full time and I'm having a tought second pregnancy but his poor ass doesn't get time to relax. Which by the way he gets to watch tv and relax by himself every night before bedtime plus gets all Friday's off.
Then had the oddasity to say he has no energy to be a father this is too much work .....who the hell tell his to his pregnant wife with his second child that!!!!
He Argues about every petty thing he can (probably because his been drinking) I'm done with his drinking and tired of telling him he's got to stop or that's going to cause the separation of our family...he knows he has a problem and refuses to do anything about it he gets mad if I tell him I'm calling his mother to tell Her about it ...he gets mad when I ask if he's been drinking because he know he has ....he gets mad if I ask him to log how much he drinks everyday as an excersice to read on paper his alcohol intake maybe he'll see he drinks way to much...., he gets mad if I simple ask him to put the bottle of vodka in a place where I can see it just so I know how much he had so I know with what I'm dealing with that day / night.
I have no one to talk to about this because it's embarrassing everyone thinks we are happy go lucky and we are not even close. All my sisters are divorced and I don't want to end up like that but if this keeps going the way i just might for the wellness of my kids and myself because if we can't have a healthy marriage I don't want to bring my kids up in a messed up home.
Rant over .....for now anyways.