Rape within a relationship

I don't know how many times I've heard the excuse "Yeah but he's your boyfriend/husband, so it's not rape". LADIES, this is so wrong. It does not matter who it is, if you say no, if you do not consent, if you push them away, it is rape.

I was raped multiple times by my ex boyfriend, and the first person I ever admitted it to, used this line on me and made me feel so stupid for thinking I'd been raped. It confused me. I thought about it over and over, how could he do this to me if I was saying no? How could this not be rape? He held me down and forced me to do things while I screamed and cried. It still haunts me. It was rape. The fact that he was my boyfriend had nothing to do with it. It took me a long time to realize it, I put off reporting him because I was told ☝☝ that.