For 15 years I have had to fantasize in order to have an orgasm alone or with my husband. I am no longer with him and am seeing someone incredible. We have the strongest chemistry and bond I've ever known. The sex is the best I've ever had. He is very talented with his fingers and his tongue. My mind and body want to stay in the moment instead of fantasize when I'm with him. I've tried both staying in the moment and fantasizing. When fantasizing my mind just goes back to the amazing connection and closeness between us. Even though I'm in pure extract I can't have one. So I can't climax when he is eating me out. Sometimes after sex my clit will beat like I've had one but obviously a small one. The first time he ate me out I had a massive orgasm. Plus my insides and my clit hum for him constantly. How do I orgasm with him?! I've used the vibrator in front of him and came and he liked it but nothing feels better than when he touches me anywhere.