Emergency room nightmare

Ty

yesterday I woke up with severe liquid diarrhea (I know, tmi!) I had also vomited twice, so I gave my Dr's office a call. They referred me to emergency room. So I check myself in and tell them what's going on. I get my blood work done, then I find out they always do an ob check with a doppler. I already wasn't feel that great, so I was sensitive and worried as it was. The lady comes in with the doppler and can't find my baby. I'm half way through it and I begin to start crying. She cannot for the life find the baby and tells me "I'm sorry I can't find the heart beat I will need to talk to your nurse to see where we go from there." At this point I am completely hysterical and absolutely scared to death. My poor husband looked on edge and was trying to stay positive. No one came back in an talked to us for an hour and the only time they came back was when my husband went out and spoke to a floor nurse telling them I was afraid and we were both on edge, telling them, hey I know you guys are busy, but my wife is a completely mess in there. anyways we can get and ultrasound. All that was told to us was I am so sorry, we are just waiting on bloodwork to get back to clear you so we can take you to the ob department. This I completely understood. Now this is where it pisses me off, another hour passes and my head nurse comes in and says my bloodwork look great that I had a stomach bug. She then asked me about the doppler and if things turned out fine. My husband and I looked at each other like wtf. So I told the nurse"no the ob nurse couldn't find the baby." The look she gave me was like wtf. She then told me "Okay let me grab and ultrasound machine." Not 1 minute late, she comes in with a damn ultrasound machine. She then tells me "I am so sorry, I was unaware that this issue had occurred." She goes onto say "The ob nurse should have came and got me directly and that she didn't follow protocol by telling both of you that she couldn't find the heartbeat (which is obvious anyways I'm 18 weeks and had the doppler done 3 times now)." She also told me that the ultrasound machine is kept on the floor for emergencies like that because they don't want to stress out the mother. She found the heart beat in 10 seconds. Happy and healthy baby that moves like crazy, but for 2 hours I cried and it took a lot out of me. The only upside to this whole mess was that, even though I knew I loved my baby, it made me realize how much I loved my baby. My heart was breaking completely during that whole time. I cried more for my baby than I did for the loss of my mother and that deeply affected me. I have a bond with this baby that is so deep and when I read poems of a mother's love or listen to music about a mother's love, I truly understand it. I love my little squish! Although it was a traumatic experience and although everyone tells me I should report that ob lady, I feel truly grateful. It was a life moment that made me realize just how ready I am for this baby and how much love I truly have for my baby. Thanks for reading!!

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