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So lol. Okay so I am 40+4 today and I go to the doctor to set the date to be induced. I am 16 years old. Not married obviously but I am with my babies father. Hes 18. We have been off and on this whole pregnancy. With him cheating on me twice. On the 16th we will be together for 2 years. I feel like I am with him because of the baby ya know. But this whole pregnancy we have done nothing but argue about the babies name because my boyfriend wants his name to be Matthew Kenneth because that's his name and he wants a junior. Well I didn't want that. So I got him to agree on Rhyson Kenneth. Well I was going to hyphenate his last name with both of ours to save more arguments. Well now we are arguing because he wants his last name to be the very last. And that's not what I want. Just because of all of the things he's done and he did try to leave and I wouldn't let him just disappear. I just don't want to make tje babies last name his last name. And so this whole time whenever he says anything about it I'm just like yeah yeah but in my head I know that's not what it's going to be. Well when he goes to sign the birth certificate and his last name is not his there is going to be arguing and I just don't know what to do. Looking for advise kind of on what to do. And how to handle it. He's kind of that type of person that is like "if its not my way then it's the highway" so I know that it's going to be a big ordeal and then his mom is going to be there also and she's going to make it a even bigger ordeal because she doesn't like his name either. She wanted it to be Matthew Kenneth also. I just feel like I'm walking into a battle zone knowing I'm going to loose the fight basically. And I don't know what to do. I don't want to give him his dads last name because we aren't married and it's just not something that I want to do. And I didn't want his middle name to be Kenneth but I made that sacrifice and did it to make him and his family happy. But now I feel like I should make my self happy because he is also my child to and not care about what they want or anything. But I just know it's going to go bad and we probably won't be together much longer after that. Because that's just who he is. It's just going to be nuts.

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Im sorry but if that were me i wouldnt give a crap if it turned into an argument. I wouldn't care if the baby father or his mom would get mad either. Its your child and it seems like he didnt support you at all throughout the pregnancy but just stress you out. Do whatever makes you happy hun. If you see a future without him and you dont want the baby to have his last name or the first then dont do it. He doesnt deserve to have what he wants. (Right after he thought it was alright to cheat twice). He isnt even ready to be a father, hes just a child. Be the mature one and do what makes you happy. Your the mom here, not him.

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My mom had me at 16. My father was 18. The were never married, but when I was born she gave me his last name because she thought they were going to get married. He walked out a year or so later and never looked back. She remarried but never forced me to change my last name. I carried that last name until I got married 3 years ago. The day I left the social security office, after I changed my last name dropping his name forever, I've never felt freer in my life. It was like a weight I had been carrying for years had been lifted. My father was a dead beat, and my mother has told me that she regrets every day giving me his last name. 
Take it as a grain of salt, but no mother will ever blame you for choosing the name you want and giving that baby your last name. You will be the one caring for him, up every night with him, rocking him when he is sick.

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Well unless either one of them are going to be giving birth to a baby then they don't get a say 🤷🏻‍♀️ You've tried talking to your boyfriend/baby's father about it and he made the decision to cheat on you not once, but TWICE while you're carrying his child. I wouldn't give a shit what he had to say, or his mom. If they make a big deal about the name and signing the birth certificate then they're only going to make themselves look like assholes. Do what you want to with your baby's name. It's not about them. Good luck ✨

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You're pushing this baby out, you decide the name. End of story.

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ur the mother u pick the last name. i wouldnr give him mine either

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Give the baby the name you want and your last name. If you marry the dad the last name can be changed to his same as you changing your name to his. It's your decision

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If you want your babies name to be something different then pick what name you want, you're the mother and like you've said, you don't think you'll be together that much longer. If he's not been supportive and he's cheated then treat yourself like a single mom x

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