Am I being too needy?

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I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy 5 years older than me. He works a lot and usually works from 7:30am-6:30pm and then will go workout, shower, then go to bed. I really really love him and he used to talk about the future with me all the time and do little things to make me happy.  But for the past two months he doesnt make an effort anymore or want to talk to me as much. He makes up excuses for why he can't talk to me. Here is what our conversation looked like yesterday:

We fight recently because i get my feelings hurt and miss him. Should I just break things off? I really don't want to because I've never loved anyone this much but I'm not happy anymore and I don't think he wants to be with me even though he keeps telling me he really does.
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No your not needy, it seems like the distance is getting to you guys and he's getting less interested in you. Trust me if he really wanted to talk to you he definitely would!!

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I think you should slowly phase him out. Stop messaging him constantly. And eventually, if and when you grow comfortable with not talking to him everyday, then you both need to talk about the future of your relationship. You both need to live your lives, but you should both also want to share what's going on in them.

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I think you should break up with him. Long distance relationships don't work very well tbh, I know from experience.

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Not needy, he is just not that interested in u. They will show it if they are. I would move on. ✌🏼

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I know how that feels. Me and my boyfriend argue everytime me talk recently. Do what i do and just straight up ask, Do you even wanna be with me. If he says yes then try to work on things. if no than you already know what to do

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How long have you guys been together for? and just make sure to call every night before bed or something instead.

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A little update: I didn't really talk to him yesterday and just wanted to give him space. he ended up texting me and telling me how he'd been thinking about me all day. He also called me before bed and asked about my day and told me he loved me so much. and here's the text i got this morning. Any thoughts?

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I think that all relationships require a lot of communication, and that it's especially true of ldr. For whatever reason, possibly his lack of interest, your communication has broken down. There's really no hope of repairing a relationship without it. If he isn't willing to communicate, and it doesn't seem like he is, the relationship isn't going to work. Maybe you just need to give it a little bit of emotional distance. He will either close the gap, or not. This isn't about manipulation. It is simply acknowledging that you cannot force what doesn't fix, and your pushing it won't help matters. Step back. See what happens.

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I don't think you are being needy. The same thing happened to me with my boyfriend we were 17 hours away from each other we didn't speak much I felt like I wasn't important but he could talk to other people it hurt me. I felt like it was him punishing me for being away for to long due to reasons. He understood why I stayed with family but still it was to much for both of us and I wanted to be with him so that's what I did. I think if I didn't it would have gotten a lot harder.

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I think you have the answers since you're questioning yourself about the situation of the relationship, it's a matter of time and putting your feet on the ground to accept reality, you said you're not happy anymore, do what makes you happy again even when that means move on from him. He's doing what he thinks is better for him according to his words. Get in charge of yourself girl, don't waste more time expecting, expectation is the root of all heartache (W. Shakespeare) Things will be better for you little by little.

Am I being too needy?

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