Throw ten years away for a maybe? Long story

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So I've been with my husband for almost 10 years(officially on Xmas eve) married for almost 4. We have a son together, just turned 3. Call me crazy but I started to have feelings for another man. I've been with my hubby since my 1st semester at college. This was my first real relationship, and not that high school-a few month -relationship. 
My high school reunion just passed and my hubby went with me. And there I saw the boy "I was in love with," he was the boy next door (literally a couple house up the street). I caught him starring straight at me as if it was "damn, the one that got away." He was always mean to me when he was around his guy friends. 
I barely got to catch up with him, it was just of those "hey, long time no see. What have you been up to?" He owns and runs a business. So he knows I'm married and have a toddler. But after the reunion, he recently got in contact with me. We've exchanged flirty words and now it's to the point of "is it too late to get to know you more?" I don't know what's with me- am I just yearning for the attention that someone else happens to be giving me. He tells me that I'm a hot momma and how he wishes to turn back time. He's compliment me more than I can remember my hubby saying anything about me since having our son. I remember bumping into him at the university and we just smirked at each other and went our way. He was also dating someone at that time too. 
BUT my hubby and I have recently and are currently ttc for baby #2 but that's literally the only time I see my hubby. And our sex has been great if not better. Im not sure if thinking of another man has raised my sex drive though. My hubby recently made me a sahm because what I made part time doesn't come close to half a work weeks pay. 
Like, I'm finding myself yearning for the other guys messages. I thought I didn't know how to flirt anymore since I've been off the market for 10 years. But apparently I do and I'm kicking myself for this. Please don't hate, I'm merely venting it out.

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I can tell you from my own experience it's not worth it.. you probably feel excited and all because you get attention from another man, you have no clue how he is in real life.. he might be even just playing you right now. My advise for you is to cut that man out COMPLETELY and plan some quality time with your husband. Make sure you have a date night once in a while and do fun stuff together. Because I think what you and your husband have is beautiful and embrace that. Just don't stop dating each other ☺️
I think most of us, man and woman get this stage in life, we love our loved ones but the attention from someone new is different.. but it's not what you're looking for. I've never cheated physically, but I did develop feelings for a guy I once met and then only texted with (not even any sexual stuff). But I quickly realized that everything I wanted and looked for in a man is already waiting at home for me :)

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I wouldn't leave a long term relationship to pursue this.  There's a chance you're tempted because let's be honest, the start of a relationship (the flirting,  the will they/wont they) is always the most exciting part.  So after being with your husband for so long you're loving this feeling of the butterflies and the maybes.  But that will disappear after some time too,  which is what you need to remind yourself.  There was a time you felt that way about your husband and you can get that back.  It's not worth throwing that all away for a bit of temporary excitement.

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The guy friend who's messaging you is being completely disrespectful to your husband (& you.) To flirt with a married mans wife like it could be something. & you're allowing him to disrespect you as well by responded to the messages & enticing him. Your husband is the bread winner making the life you have possible. A guy who flirts with a married women, shows at any point he'd cheat in a relationship or marriage if he got into one. I had a friend who was in same position except she's 21, & it nearly ruined her life. Her husband still doesn't know. But they have kid #2 now. He's 7 months now I think. ...Don't go chasing after something that you shouldn't be & thinking it's "better on the other side." You'll be shut down real quick. In a form, you are cheating.

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You're excited for something new, but you can't live in the past forever.. your past fling excites you but don't forget who got you to your future. Hope you figure it out for your husband and child's sake

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I agree with the above comments. Right before I got married I had someone full on hitting on me and I confess I was tempted. I got married after being with my boyfriend for 6 years so it wasn't a new feeling. And even with the excitement of getting married, having someone pursuing me like that was vey tempting and flattering. I passed on the guy, got married and now I can't even begin to think on why I even considered the guy a possibility. And I'm so happy in my marriage. I'd say if you continue to flirt with this guy, there will be a make it or break it moment when you'll have to make a decision. Just keep in mind that it is probably just flattering to have someone paying attention to you and it is great to feel pretty and wanted, but if you get with this guy, these feelings with eventually fade. Then what?

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It's sounds like you are craving the excitement. the grass is not always greener on the other side. You have your husband, child and are trying for a baby. be careful about throwing all that away

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Call me harsh but you would be a fool to throw away 10 years and a family for a flirtation. Cut off the contact and work on the relationship.

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Why would you want to be with a man who doesnt respect the sanctity of marriage? Or even his own relationship? You're basically willing to throw away your marriage to pursue a fantasy. Your crush is just a fantasy, you don't know who he truly is. But you do know who your husband is and what kind of man he is to you & your family. The grass isn't greener on the other side. Your excited for the new feeling but it's a feeling you can get from your husband with a little work. Don't do this, please. Cut the man off immediately. I would hate to read a future post where you either got caught or left your husband & you're in a fucked up situation. Leave him alone & focus on your family.

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Don't do it. You have a husband and a child. Why would you throw all that away for what will likely be a fling? By the sounds of it you've already crossed a line with your messages but for the love of God cut it off there and pay the attention you're spending on this second guy, on your marriage and your family instead. Ask yourself if you leave for this man and it doesn't work out, will it still be worth losing your husband and family. If the answer is yes then by all means, go for it but if it's no then cut off contact.

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Why would you give up your family for a homewrecker! especially when you already have a son and your hard working husband! Wake up!!!!!
Had a similar experience where a guy from the past texted me with similar lines (wish I got to know you better, you were so different to other girls, can we meet up etc) and it was for sure he saw it just as a challenge (to get a married woman) and probably was horny at the time and wanted some fun and something different. I told my husband what had happened and completely blocked the guy.

Throw ten years away for a maybe? Long story

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