So yesterday I found out I was pregnant I kept crying nonstop since the second they told me
So yesterday I found out I was pregnant I kept crying nonstop since the second they told me. I was terrified of the idea. I always said it wasn't in the cards for me. I don't want any and so on. I told the guy (it's kinda hard to describe what we are to each other) and he straight up kept telling me doesn't want the kid or any kid for that matter and said "if we gotta do what we gotta do then so be it". He kept reminding me on all the time I used to say I didn't want any and kept saying "I don't want it you don't so wtf Is the problem? Let's just go and get it done and it's done. We'll just go back to have life was before." I kept trying to tell him it's different now that I am pregnant and know it's growing inside me and that there's a huge part of me that wants to keep it. I mean I'm terrified of being a mother but I do like the idea. We talked it over all night and after him getting mad that I kept saying I'll do it on my own and I'll move away so that I can start fresh and no one needs to know he's the father nor will anyone ever see me with a huge belly. He got really mad cause he said he doesn't want me to leave and that he doesn't want to lose me but he also doesn't want to raise a child cause we're both still young and going back to college and getting where we want in life and neither of us are financially stable to bring a child into this world. I even brought up the idea of adoption he got even more mad cause that people who go through that come out f**ked in the head cause neither of their parents wanted them to do that to them but I told him the other side that those parents wanted the best for the child which they knew they couldn't provide and they put them up for adoption. Then he told not to go through with it cause I don't understand but after awhile I finally got him to spit it out and he told me what he has been holding back from for years which is he everything wrong with him from diabetes to cancer including enlarged heart and clogged arteries and not to mention all the mental health problems he has. He said he got it from both sides of his family and he got mad because he says his parents knew the risks and still went through with it and all his brothers and sisters have health and mental problems too. After that he kept saying if I go through with it our baby won't be healthy and will be suffering all the time like how he and his family is and have been for generations. I said I still wanted to try causewhat If by some miracle my baby comes out completely healthy but he kept saying I was being extremely selfish by trying to risk it because that I don't know what it's like. I don't know what to do. There's a huge part of me that wants to try but I'm also afraid of doing it on my own and also what if he turns out to be right and my baby suffers with most of his life and stuff you know. I'm so confused and constantly overthinking and very overwhelmed I just don't know what to do. I need some advice!!!

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