Finding out 2days before being induced that due to argument my husband refuses to be with me at hospital??

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I'm getting induced this Sunday, I've told my husband several times throughout whole pregnancy no visitors at home for first 2weeks as I want to bond with baby and him. Visitors at hospital that's fine as they are only 10 min visitations, last night he announced his brother is booking flight tickets 8 days after my delivery and he's also bring his partner which I do not speak to as he greatly offended me and my mother previously!
He's now saying that he won't go hospital with me nor put his name on baby's certificate! Just because I'm acting possessive and control freak . I'm pretty sure I'm not the only damn mother who wants to bond with newborn especially it's our first all I asked for is 2 damn weeks he's taken it to extreme I'm so broken hearted.
My mother is worried she will have to go in with me ! Thats just disgrace I've been with this man for 6 years!
What would you do.

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I would probably tell him that it's more than bonding; you will be in recovery. You will be tired, your nipples will burn. Your baby will also have a compromised immune system (no joke; saddest story ever this spring a baby died from a kiss). Tel him you want Robbins as a family - the three of you, and that you are relying on him to exercise wisdom and leadership. 
Also tell him that you know how badly he wants to show off your child - and that you will. Tell him it will be better to have  small dinner party once you have your system down.
My husband wanted his mother to come from out of the country immediately following our son's discharge  I told him that I needed time to establish a system and my way of parenting. We argued, but later he saw my point.

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This bullshit is one of the reasons my ex husband is an ex. Zero respect for a new mothers needs and wishes.

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I think that he's over reacting, but also remember it's his baby too. I can understand why he's upset (he wants to show off his baby), but I also understand why you want 2 weeks. Men just don't get how hard it is to have a baby. Hospitals usually recommend the baby not be in the public for 30 days, so 2 weeks is not asking for much. good luck with this. I hope you guys work it out before the baby comes.

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personally if my SO said he wasn't going with me and not putting his name then oh well his problems he wanted to act immature over a dumb argument and not understand that I need bonding time and time to heal after labor then he can sit his ass at home that's just me, my so an me did have a argument and he did say he wouldn't go or put his name and I told him that I could just have my mom and sister I'd be fine and it snapped him out of it and he understood now we deliever in 8 weeks or less 😊 hope everything works out for you but honestly sit down and talk to him and do whatever you think is right

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Could you compromise? Say three days with no visitors and then just immediate family for a short period of time? It's his baby too, I think he should have some say

Finding out 2days before being induced that due to argument my husband refuses to be with me at hospital??

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