2nd pregnancy is not as fun as first

I am probably one of the few women who said they enjoyed their first pregnancy but with #2 not so much.... at 33 weeks I feel like a cow this time around with gaining some weight after the first pregnancy. I feel like I have no time to relax working full time and coming home to make sure #1 is fed and all the other daily routines. My husband and I share the responsibilities so it's not always just me but some days I'm just tired. My husband is super tired bc he doesn't get much sleep since our #1 is not sleeping through the night and complains about the house feeling like a mess. I feel bad so I try to help but I get so tired that I end up getting mad bc I feel like he's making me feel bad and nagging at me for being messy. It's this horrible cycle that makes both my husband and I constantly grumpy. We're mad, tired and I find myself crying. I always find that i want to say something really mean but know that I will regret it later.... some days I just want to be pampered or just do nothing but it's hard when you have another lil one. I just needed to vent and didn't want to talk to anybody since nobody wants to hear me complain. I give props to all the mommies out there with 2+ kids and single mothers. You ladies are amazing!!