Rape Fantasy

Is it wrong to have a rape fantasy? I have an erotic rape fantasy of "I'm being forced & I like it." My husband thinks I'm fucked up for it.

Also, he thinks it stems from me having been molested when I was younger.....

He said its essentially putting him in place of a father figure. I tried to explain to him that I didn't like being molested & no he's not being put in that place, his place is my husband entertaining my damn fantasy. That's all.

He also thinks that my master/slave bdsm that im possibly interested in & just wants to try stems from my being abused as a child.

& thinks my threesome Fantasy is fucked up, that the thought of him being with another woman should make me ill. Sure, I get that. I joke about him asking people or finding someone but we would never act on it. I like to play into the story & act like that shits for real so I want to know what he'd do & all. I explained that to me it's just a rush.

He has essentially allowed me to tell him fantasies I've never opened up to anyone about by telling me he wouldn't think I was weird & shit yet here he is putting me in a super vulnerable position, judging me & making me feel so wrong about all of it.

I feel like a fucking idiot now.