What's this man playing at?

Loooooong story short..... I met this guy, we hit it off, strong connection. Loads in common. Good laugh together. Amazing sex. And just an amazing man inside out.

I find out, he isn't even single, he's got a girl and kids.....

I confront him, we break it off.... THEN, found out I was pregnant. Decided I wasn't going to tell him, I didn't want to break his family up. Hurt his girlfriend, and kids. And FUCK his life up. So I lifted it. And kept it to myself.

After LOOAADS of pressure from friends and family that I was going the wrong thing and that his girlfriend needs to know he has other kids out there behind her back, she dosent deserve that. He will do it again to her etc. And that this is his child he has a right to know, and for your child's sake give him/her a chance to have a father etc etc.

I told him a week before the arrival of our daughter. He phoned me, and to my disbelief, he sounds so happy, he was able to leave a relationship he felt trapped in. Because he wasn't in love with her. And just sees her as a good friend. He arranged to meet right away. We got a DNA test and suddenly he started living up to the mark. Being there loads for us, bringing us up to his mums so she could see her new granddaughter. Helped me move into my new house. And was calling in almost everyday to spend time.

THEN, eventually, one thing led to another after a few months. I thought he was single for months. And we both couldn't help our feelings anymore. But then I find out, HES STILL WITH HER!!!

I tried to end it, and he BEGGED me, literally, hands and knees, flowers, the works. That he has never ever felt as strongly in his life for any women. And he's been in quite a few long relationship, but he has never had a connection like this with anyone. That he isn't with her in his head, she just never left him. And he promises he will sit her down and tell her the truth.

I broke it off for a while. To give it time, him time, her time. And to see what I wanted (I fell so in love with him) then I got talking to his ex and she said he sat her down and told her his feelings, she wished me good luck with him etc. So me and him started dating again.

He was with me everyday, and when he wasn't he was on the phone to me flat out. But still calling into his ex's to see his kids.

One or two nights during the winter months last year. He didn't make contact because he was in hers. Then..... she ended up pregnant. But so did I.... 😳

He has stuck by myself the entire time threwout my pregnancy and has been an amazing and supportive man. Promising to stick by me threw everything. Even said about getting married (which he never wanted)....

Now, my daughter, and his ex's daughter. Are both 3 weeks old.

I have been fighting with him everyday over trust issues and being afraid that once the bsbies come he will run back to her, and she will find a way to have him come running back using the kids etc. And the trust isn't there, and how I can't have him lead us both on and live a double life again etc etc.

He still PROMISED me he was madly in love and couldn't spend the rest of his life without me, and he is never getting back with her, he dosebt even think about her anymore. He has no interest in that when he's with her. But I couldn't let go and get past this trust barrier,

So two weeks ago, after a huge fight, he told me he couldn't take my shit anymore, with my trust issues and starting on him constantly. I need time to get past the hurt, we both need time to become happy again and be ourselves. He had stopped calling into hers during the week to see the kids to build trust with me. And just took them at weekends.

But since he ended it with me, two weeks ago, and said he dosent want this, he's not over me and won't be moving on anytime soon, we both just need time.... telling me he dosent want me moving on because he's not, where has he been the last two weeks? The one place I was afraid the whole time when he strung me along. His ex's house.

Going there and sitting all day everyday. Ringing her constant, going out places with her and the kids.

I cried to him that it's broke me he would do this and just run back to his ex so so quickly. And he's trying to PROMISE me he isn't back with her. I can ring and ask her and talk to her if I want to. He said it is just something he doesn't miss about being with me is not being able to go sit with his kids when he wants. Because he's over her. (But she isn't over him so he's leading her on) and I've explained this. Now he's saying he just wants to be able to call there and see his kids whenever, and call and sit here when he pleases to see his kids. Because he isntwith either of us. And dosent plan to be anytime soon. What do you make of all this? Douche bag? Trying to play two people?

UPDATED: he had spent the entire day with me yesterday to get our daughters birth certificate signed and went and got lunch etc. And he spent the whole day flirting with me and acting like he didn't want to leave. To then go and stay at hers. And have his phone off today when he said he would be in touch to take his daughter.