Is my man disrespecting me for his MOM?!

Question

A lil background: me and my BF has been together for over 5 yrs. living together for over 3 years. We have a great relationship. His mom and I do not get along. I have tried to be friends with her and she always ends up disrespecting me. Anyways, we have a balcony in our apartment and I thought it would be great to get 2 balcony chairs to be able to sit outside with our plants and for the chairs to be high enough so that we can look over the balcony a little. Well we found some used ones but in perfect condition about 2 months ago and I love them. They were only $10 and my boyfriend paid for them. 
So today my BF leaves to go to his moms house but he comes back up the stairs like he forgot something, so I see him grab a tomato and one of OUR chairs from our balcony! I ask him, why r u taking that out the house? He says, to give it to my mom. I said, what? Why? He says because she needs a chair like this, she fell and hurt her back. 
I want to mention that the chair is high and very thinly built and the seat is small and thin too so I think he just wanted to give his mom the chair and I don't think it was bcuz her back hurt. (Oh and She did not ask for the chair by the way). 
Anyways, I say to him, why would u take our chair out of our home and give it to ur mom? That's hella rude. And he says, what? I bought it, and my mom needs it! And he proceeded to leave. 
I'm so mad at him and my feelings are hurt. Am I wrong?? Or am I being petty? 
*and no I wouldn't give one of my chairs to my mom from my home, I would take her to go buy her own
Thanks for the opinions!

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Yeah that's weird, if she needs a chair why not get her her own or take her to get her own. or if he was really really set on giving her one of yalls chairs, he could have talked to you about it first. even if he bought it. yall are living together so furniture being removed should, at the very least, be mentioned.

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If he wants to give his a mom a chair okay whatever, but why wouldn’t he run it by you?  Y’all are supposed to be a team

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I would say that is rude. IDGAF if he bought it with his money.. he bought it for his AND your home. You two live together and are in a serious relationship, it’s not like you are roommates. You two are building a life together and it’s disrespectful, especially because you weren’t happy with that decision and he should have taken your feelings/opinion in to consideration. My husband and I make ALL household/family decision TOGETHER, even before we got married. It’s respecting the relationship and the life you two are trying to build. Sure a chair may seem petty, but it’s the principle. I would talk to him about that.. and don’t ever “just go with it”, if you disagree. A relationship is a partnership in most aspects of your life. I absolutely love my mother in law to death, we have always had a wonderful relationship, but she’s good at manipulating my husband and I ALWAYS put my foot down. ✋🏻

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The chairs aren't expensive so if he wants to give HIS to his Mom (and buy another) it's fine. He better not put his butt on the chair that's left on the balcony! Lol.

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I don't think your wrong at all Moms with boys (some of them) tend to be like this just asking for petty things and being aggy because she knows her son and he's not going to tell her no trust me been going through this with my husband (not the same situation) I don't think your feelings are wrong at all

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Why don't you suggest kindly that maybe he should get her a cushioned one meant for back injuries. Wal-Mart sells some really good chairs. Also explain to him calmly that you found what he did disrespectful. Tell him it hurt you that he couldn't discuss taking something out of your home first and that you are a team that is supposed to share everything and communicate constantly about every decision. Explain that you care for his mom and that you want to help but taking a chair that you two were supposed to use to share outside time together out of your home was very hurtful and that you were planning to have great experiences outside together. Explain that you love him but youd appreciate it if he would trade the chair out for something else and tell him all the things about it being uncomfortable. Speak up for yourself but do it respectfully and calmly and never let him walk all over you.

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ask him "if my mom needed a tv or a couch and I gave her ours because I bought it would you be ok with that?"

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😒😒😒😒😒😒 find a different one. Why break up the set that's stupid as hell. And if she hurt her back, that sounds like too high of a chair to be getting in and out of 😑

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Okay um. Coming from someone who doesn't like their mother in law.... I think you're being childish. First of all, its $10. It's not a huge deal. Also, how do you know if she hurt or back or not? He's allowed to take something from his own home to give to his mother. Do I think he handled it wrong? Absolutely. As your partner, he should have communicated better with you. But he didn't. Oh well. It's a fuckin chair. If it were anything else in your house, yeah I'm sure I could understand. But a chair? No. Stop.

Is my man disrespecting me for his MOM?!

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