Now what, d&c, meds, wait it out?

Question

Hey ladies. First of all I am so sorry for your losses. This is truly a pain no one deserves to feel.... My question is.... I'm wondering what your opinions are on how to just get the miscarriage over with. I believe I lost the baby at 6 weeks or so, last week when I started some light spotting. I went in today and my hcg was only 73. I have another draw in Monday, but I know in my heart the baby is gone and I need to think about my options. The spotting has continued for seven days, literally only there when I wipe. I keep hearing that there will be a lot of blood so I know I haven't passed everything yet... At this point I just want it over with but my body just isn't doing this fast enough for me. I also don't want to run the risk of having it happen at work. So a d&c or the meds appeal to me in that I can take back some control and get the physical miscarriage over with so I can focus on healing emotionally. What did you do and what would you recommend? I hope this doesnt sound too callous- I'm like a robot right now and all buisness. Thanks in advance for your input!

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So sorry for your loss :( 
I decided to get a D&C because I was in school on my clinical rotation and didnt want it to happen there or even just wait. I just wanted to start moving forward as my baby stopped growing at 6w3d and I was at 9w3d when I found out. No spotting, just cramping. Surgery went totally fine and the pain was minimal and I lightly bled for a week. I was relieved after it was over, physically. And no regrets still. The meds didnt appeal to me because I didnt want to see the fetal tissue :( do what feels right in your heart.. Take some days of work if you can. Goodluck, big hug and support

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Thanks ladies for your kind words and input! I am thinking I will go in on Monday, hear the news that the hcg is even lower, and request the meds for my personal reasons. My heart gods out to all you ladies recovering from your devastating losses. Thanks for giving me hope that I can get through this.

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I had my first pregnancy in December and I miscarried in February this year. When I went to my first appointment in January, the doctor told me the baby was growing but there was no heartbeat and the gestational sac looked like it was collapsing. She offered to do the surgery, but I felt that I had to wait for my body to tell me that I needed to miscarry. It took three weeks for me to start bleeding and after three days with moderate cramps, I passed the embryo. I think in my case I wanted to wait to get reassurance from my own body that this pregnancy was not viable. Not from a guess from the doctor...

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I am so sorry for your loss. I found out I was miscarrying at 9 weeks, but the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks 3 days. I had light spotting during that week and a half and the doctor said either natural or d&c would be recommended. I chose surgery because, like you, I felt like I couldn't keep waiting and running to the bathroom constantly to check on things. As sad as I was, I just needed to be able to move forward. I can say that overall I don't regret making that choice. The night before surgery I was an emotional mess knowing it was my last night with the baby. I am so sorry you have to go through this and hope you are able to heal soon

Now what, d&c, meds, wait it out?

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