sahm venting

Iam a stay at home mom of 2 i have been for 11 years, my husband works 2 jobs and i feel like the worst person already and now his mom is blaming me saying i stress him out by letting him take care of all the bills, we live in a city were we dont know anyone no family or friendsto help out, my oldest is 11 and people look at me like seriously your still at home with grown children and bugs me so much but like i said its just us here no babysitters or anyone to help pick up and take care of kids while i work. i know im doing right by being there for my children but i want to help with income as well. im just torn on what to do and what's best for my family.