Feeling indifferent

I’ve never really felt acknowledged while pg from the in laws and my husbands extended family. I know they were just all about the baby. But when they asked they would go, hows the baby doing? But I got over it. I mean, I was the one carrying the baby.

But after the baby was born that of course Never changed. After labor it was how’s the baby doing. I understand. Even I am all about my child. I put her first above and beyond everything. But I’m dealing with a lot too. I am taking meds for pdd, I had a rough time with bf the first two weeks that all I did was cry. Thankfully that’s all better now. But they would never know bc they’ve never asked how am I doing or feeling or liking being a new mom.

But I don’t want to sound so selfish but now the in laws and his family, all they ever say and comment on is how my little girl looks like them. Oh she has the chin, the eyes, the hair, the nose, the lips, the ears. I’m like huh????!! Is there no me in my baby? She has my lips, my ears and my eyes. I’m just weirded out by it. Idk.

I told my husband how much I feel like a shell or a machine. I am just something that carried her and made her. Nothing more.